Thanks, all, so much. Where else could I talk about all this stuff and be so understood?
All in all, M was amazing inParis. And we did have that talk...I told him I wasn't blaming him but fear the nonstop talking is maybe a compulsion, and that because I'm wired to be very reactive to speech in my presence and I simply can't not listen, and I'm reacting with a lot of stress and just not sure I can handle it long term. He got a lot quieter and I expressed myself more and we got very playful and just had a joyous time. Even joked about it a lot. And then ironically he came down with laryngitis yesterday! Speaking of hints from the universe. But it was an amazing week, highlight a day near the Sorbonne. Notre Dame was very sad.
Today he's soaking up the sun on the balcony of his fancy visiting professors suite in Jerusalem, starts his lectures next week.
I came to Oslo today and though I lost my cell phone, am having a beautiful time with old friend Erik and family. Their house is on an island a block from the king!s summer home. We could tell he's there because of the sole guard! Erik's met him and says he's very nice while introverted, and folks really like the queen. Strange neighbors! Stunning place all around...their house is from another time, full of generations of his family stuff and hers (Russian). His wife (retired film maker) and daughter (opera singer now teaching voice) made an amazing huge dinner with fish and lots of Vegs plus huge local strawberries for dessert. Tomorrow we're taking the streetcar downtown and I'm going to buy a warm sweater...after perfect-warmth Paris, Oslo's nearly starting fall. So gorgeous here, first time back since 1960. Really grateful to be here, dreamed of it a long time.
Thanks for the Le Soufflé suggestion, Lighter, but since M practically,lives for the gourmet thing and has 50 favorites, I was happy to let him choose. To say we ate well is an understatement.
Tupp, M is now plotting a Guggenheim so we could spend a year here, and if that happens you and I will meet, promise!
GBoat, thanks for the good wishes. You've no idea how much your perspective helped me enjoy all this. And Amber, you said something so insightful about respecting restraint being as much having my back as taking charge. I'm going to find a time to tell him that (but will pretend I thought of it, okay?)
CB, you sure heard me. Every piece of it. Thank you so much.
Love y'all LOTS,
Hops