(((((Lighter))))
This rang cathedral bells for me:
I'm overtly sympathetic. I see that now.
I remember back when I was trying to figure out why so many different men have fixated on you, causing you intense internal stress, and I speculated that it was because of your overwhelming sexiness. I apologize. (Not that you're NOT sexy!).
I think it's the above, your own insight. It makes so much more sense.
It's not that your empathy is "bad", of course! It might be how you instinctively project a great BIG warmth and concern -- with impact on them you don't anticipate because it's your natural reflex. It's just...big.
Hmmm. I can imagine loads of men, unhappy with themselves or their woman-situations -- being set afire by that alone. It's an old old story.
And that old story has wound up more than once with them responding to you in a raw or even at times aggressive way that has tripped your spidey alarms.
I'm thinking as you continue to heal and soothe yourself, calmly and kindly, you're going to be able to tune into your own energies in encounters. NOT just "fight or flight" but the subtler stuff, which could be just two questions in the moment:
How much tenderness and accomodating and helping vibe am I emitting?
What does it feel like to try holding my goodwill more privately?Reminds me of riding, how learning to use bit and reins and heels less, ultimately resulted in more -- peaceful cooperation between me and horse.
Ta da! Men are just horses. That helps (me). LOL.
hugs
Hops
