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Meh

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Anything again
« on: February 17, 2026, 02:03:11 PM »
Artist Name: Miles Johnston

Art: "Withdrawal"
Art: "Persona Revolution"
Art: "Percept"

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Re: Anything again
« Reply #1 on: February 20, 2026, 03:01:17 PM »
"It isn’t a conversation because a conversation requires mutuality and new information. What you are describing is a monologue with a required witness.

Why It’s Not Conversing
A real conversation is a "zero-sum" exchange where both people are changed or informed by the interaction. What the narcissist does is different:

Fixed Outcomes: In a conversation, the direction is unknown. With a narcissist, the "end" is already decided: they must be seen as the person with the "correct" taste.

Performance vs. Exchange: They aren't looking for your perspective on the subject; they are looking for a reflection. You are a mirror, not a participant.

The "Captive Audience" Dynamic: Conversations are voluntary. This is a hostage situation where silence is treated as a provocation and disagreement is treated as a "wrong" answer to a task you never applied for."

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Re: Anything again
« Reply #2 on: February 23, 2026, 01:14:14 PM »
That last paragraph is so familiar, Meh. 

Your ability to see the behaviors, observe them, with some emotional detachment is huge, IME.

Just take care of yourself....limit contact, as you need/can. 

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Re: Anything again
« Reply #3 on: February 23, 2026, 03:53:30 PM »

"They aren't looking at the food because they’re hungry; they’re looking at it because it belongs to you, and they want to see if they can get a reaction out of you by interacting with it."

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Re: Anything again
« Reply #4 on: February 23, 2026, 03:57:26 PM »
That last paragraph is so familiar, Meh. 

Your ability to see the behaviors, observe them, with some emotional detachment is huge, IME.

Just take care of yourself....limit contact, as you need/can. 

Lighter

Thanks Lighter.

Yes take care of oneself definitely has to be the ultimate goal. True true. And for whatever reason sometimes it's helpful to be told it.

Take care of oneself.
Take care of oneself....

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« Reply #5 on: February 23, 2026, 04:02:45 PM »
I hope my intution's right, but I keep thinking I'm hearing more light, less darkness, more freedom, and less self-abandonment from you, Meh.

Makes my heart feel good even if I'm just imagining it for you.

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Hops
"That'll do, pig, that'll do."

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Re: Anything again
« Reply #6 on: February 23, 2026, 07:02:37 PM »
Take care of oneself ...
Take care of oneself.....
Sort of hypnotizing, isn't it, Meh?
 Mantra and meditation.


Hops....I see what you see....
Hear hear to abandoning self abandonment.
Yes.
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Re: Anything again
« Reply #7 on: Today at 01:08:14 PM »

"Trust Your Reality: You aren't "missing the joke." There wasn't one. You're just refusing to participate in the delusion that their every thought is fascinating or funny."

I know this one seems mild but when I read it I realize that they try to force a few weak people into their logic all the time and if one does not agree to their logic or creates an entirely different narrative it frustrates them, bores them or some combo.

Most people I think are probably accustomed to knowing that others do not find their every mundane though deeply captivating. That delusion that their every thought is fascinating or funny.

It's just profound to me because the N has sort of perverted the concept of funny, fun, etc.

Their "jokes" are bids for attention it's NOT meant to make another person laugh. It's so stupid and pathetic really.

It's still morning still more time to get things done. It only takes action steps. Small action steps to get things done.

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Re: Anything again
« Reply #8 on: Today at 04:59:26 PM »
This is just the right thread for this, Meh.

"When we stop fighting, pulling and denying, and running - when we sit, even briefly, with what unsettles us - each moment begins to offer its lesson: that nothing is lifeless, nothing is void of Love. Even silence, when met with presence, begins to sing.  And here is the paradox: all that is beautiful in life, all that matters, all that carries grace, does not come when we grasp for it - not by thinking its ours to force into being. We push against life like a river fighting its own pull, forgetting both its Source and the vast ocean it longs to join."

--Lee Jampolsky