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I'm a little confused Lighter. Are you talking about your residence or the Lake House? I thought the glass tile bathroom was the Lake House.

And maybe I missed it, but wasn't DD24 moving in with BF, somewhere else?
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There's 62 trees mostly Oaks, Maple, Dogwood, River Birch and Redbuds.  The River Birch have many, more slender trunks, and seem to be struggling more than the single trunk varieties.

There's 3 trees, at least, with more brown leaves, most at the top, and we know there are air pockets around the roots from planting day.  Will have to get dirt into the holes as we push dirt and water down.  One of these poor trees has a standing pool of water in the well we built.  Once we shoved a branch into the soil, air bubbles came up and the water swirled as it entered the air pockets.....problematic in this heat AND we're dealing with mud, ants and trying not to burn out the well pump or empty our well.

We need a submerged electric pump for the lake, which we're allowed.  The research says newly planted trees, this size....around 25' tall, require 20 gallons of water each, once a week......20x60=1200 in the very hot, dry spells.

We're using the mule, to run the shorter hoses around, at this point.  It's not humanly possible to do it the without in this heat, like we did in the winter, during planting.... we'd have heat strokes.

I sure hope it's 🌧️ at the lake today, bc we watered the thirstiest trees only.

We're grouting the shower floor with black grout today,then moving to white grout for everything else.  Would be great to finish that today,can't get toilet in.

The vanity requires retrofitting of drawers around the plumbing.  We drew the cutout for sink yesterday.....not a centimeter of wiggle room to spare, btw.  It's a 4" spread, with a pull out faucet.  Still have to cut the legs off.  Very handsome piece, with 6 big working drawers.

Shower door arrives tomorrow..... that'll be it's own installation nightmare, drilling into glass tile.  Will see.

Exterior door to outdoor shower is last thing to deal with.  I have lots of caulking and painting to do on trim. Some ceiling repair.

Must remove last if tile spacers and wipe down tile this morning.  Will get up at 5:30 to get that done.

Foot still healing, but almost walking normal all the time.

I told DD23 to get tile choices together for upstairs bathroom, as she's been critical of my choices. Will roll into that after dealing with outdoor shed roof, insulation and finishing.....to be heat)cooled space with electricity for DD24's bf's band practice and teaching lessons, storing instruments, etc.

Their King mattress arrived, strapped to the top of my truck, just ahead of a massive thunderstorm.  They have one of the walk in closets open, and a private bedroom.  They were in a blowup mattress in the LR for a few nights. 

It's chaos, but I think I'm relatively unfazed by it.

The sofa still sits in the truck.  Need to edit closet contents, now sitting in LR.  Will be large, for the space, but comfortable.

That's my tree update, Hops, and more.

The journey continues.

Lighter


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Educate me!. I'm curious what sorts of trees are needing watering?

I am a minimal [translate: LAZY] waterist. I kind of plant things, water them once or twice, and then just ask the plant, so how much you wanna live? (I can't drag hoses so sarcasm is my refuge.) My trees and plants are doing sorta well, even lushly in some areas, but in others, their green tongues are hanging out.

hugs
Hops
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I watered trees 7 hours today, up hill and downhill.....dragging 300 feet of heavy hose.  I'd say I've about healed.

This heat is brutal, guys!

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Ai yi yi, me too! Poor foot and poor you. Glad kids are coming to help.
Gently now, girl.

Sandals?

Hugs
Hops
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Ohhhhh... I'm sorry you hurt your foot Lighter! I hope it's not something that'll keep you out of commission a long time. We really NEED our feetz!
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: The island
« Last post by lighter on July 06, 2025, 11:31:01 AM »
Guests checked out a day early.  Must have boated back during a good weather window.
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I'm often shocked at how casually accepting people are of naked female torsos found, hidden, abandoned, left in wooded areas, etc.....like trash.

Then, when someone, who might have been a dead body/likely would have been a dead body, defends herself against her known attacker/abuser/interpersonal terrorist THAT'S big news.  That's reason for deep reflection, an investigation into a "crime."

And as many women would put these survivors in prison, as would men, IME.

People truly are, IME, more comfortable with women's dead bodies than those who defended their lives and survived, when their attacker did not.

IME, had the attacker lived, it would have been ok.  So it's never about the attack, or threat, or threat against life..... it's that the defender didn't do a better job surviving.  They did it wrong.  They're at fault, yup yup yup.  And....imhe, maybe the defender should have just done as she was bid, and died.  Certainly, it was clear the Prosecutor's opinion pointed to that as preferable, IME. 



It's never been different in my lifetime.  I noticed it, really felt it in my bones, when I was in my mid twenties.  Noticed my father didn't bat an eye at a news story about, you guessed it, another naked female torso found on the side of the road.  His response was to bark the question....
"Are you a lesbian?"

So little care.  So little thought.  So alien to consider a dead woman's plight, he drew a connection to another alien concept involving "women."It was an attack, btw, to throw that accusation.  Why else, would one care about dead women?  Right?  Unnatural. Wrong headed.  Right?

Dad was raised to be a mysoginist by both his parents, and uncles on his mother's side.

His father cheated .....
"Well, your Grandma was very sick .". An excuse.....no judgement or expletives, but discuss a woman cheating......there was never an excuse, only name calling and spiteful judgement.

My father cheated with his best friend's wife....heck, the poor guy lived with us during his divorce.  I'm sure the wife snuck in Dad's bedroom door WHILE his friend slept in the basement.  I feel shame, just thinking about that, but Dad still had the nerve to beat his fist on the kitchen table and rail against women, lack of integrity and whatever he was wailing about at the time. 

So dramatic.
So all about him.
So emotional.....and God forbid it makes you cry, bc then came disdainful recriminations..... "Women use tears for blah blah blah. ".

Yaaaaa, we're the emotional ones.

I never saw it his way, not really.  In fact, Dad's insistence women "lacked that extra nerve" men had.....enabling terrible treatment of men, was followed up by his insistence "integrity is everything."

Such hypocrisy left marks and scars and unconscious belief systems......internalized misogyny, among them, but there's always been clarity around a person's right to survive an attempt on their life.  Man, woman and child. A bully shouldn't have the right to murder his family, imo. 

That's just not how this society sees it ...feels it in their bones, IME.

It's so stark, now.......how little care there is for women and children.  Part of society IS missing a nerve, IME. 

The prosecutors only care about convictions..... they'd convict an innocent man, woman or child, but.......IME, there's more incentive to convict women, based on cultural bias.

Lighter


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Being careful isn't enough.  Being careful, enough, requires sea change in patience and also, cultivating several beats before acting.

Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: The island
« Last post by lighter on July 06, 2025, 08:09:57 AM »
Current guests left late on the 1st ...landing them and their boat at the he marina after closing.

The "caretaker" ignored my calls and texts, which is unhelpful, esp as he's the current dock master at the marina and lives for free in my guesthouse.

Housekeeper answered immediately, and fetched guests promptly.  Caretaker texted he'd sent a taxi....which was unhelpful and had to be cancelled.....then he ghosted me again.

Guests happy and appreciative once installed at Cottage.    My housekeeper is a gem, often doing her job, and often her brother's.

Not sure why being helpful and professional is so difficult for some men, and not others, but it's a thing.

Later, "caretaker" texted he'd gotten in touch with guests, but damnit....a day late and a dollar short. 

He was also benefactor, of fridge contents, after my brother left recently.  Housekeeper has a big family, but the single guy, living for free, not being helpful,with dogs stealing guest shoes.....should have everything.  Grrrr.




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