G, I could have written both of those posts, this is exactly what I'm struggling with at the minute! One of the friends I'm distancing myself from can talk for an hour without drawing breath, usually about someone else's drama. I will willingly listen endlessly to someone who is in an impossible situation and just needs to vent - bereavement, diagnosis of something hideous, husband just announced he's been having an affair for ten years and he's leaving - I understand that there are times when listening is all you can do. But, friends that talk only about something that interests them, for whatever reason - it's just tiring. And interestingly, the friend that talks about herself all the time is the same one that suggested going swimming (which I hate) and who this week called wanting to meet up that day (three hours notice) and who then kept suggesting I fit her in when I said no. I suppose it stands to reason if most of the conversations you have only involve them then they won't know much about the other person. And yes, lots of my friendships stopped once I stopped making an effort. There are many people who I didn't call for six months when my son first got ill, just because there was so much else going on I didn't even think about ringing people for a chat. It was only after six months I started to notice that not one of those people had called me in that time - I hadn't rung, so nothing else ever happened. So yes, perfectly possible to shed friends simply by not calling them (although also a good way to find out who your real mates are because they are the ones that phone - it's just a shock to the system if you find out it's no-one! I was lucky; one kept ringing and she has kept in touch with me weekly for nearly twenty years now, I am so lucky to have her).
And yes, organising other people is like herding cats! I've no idea how so many people manage with no idea what they're doing from one day to the next and constantly thinking on their feet and having to keep adapting each day - I find it exhausting. Phoning, texting, Facebook, then chasing again because tickets need to be booked, then organising how to get there - have stopped doing it now! Just too much hassle, especially when everyone says they want to come but then no-one comes back with a date or a time. And group food events like a picnic do need a bit of organising re who does what because otherwise everyone turns up with the same stuff and a lot of it gets wasted. And the meet with the other mums this week was a good example of that; we were meeting for a picnic and I thought (as did many others) that we were bringing our own individual food. Several had been told it was a group food thing so had bought stuff for everyone and ended up taking loads of it home. So yes, planning is required! Lol
I'm curious about the Starbucks ladies as well now, G, I'd have liked to know what the circumstances were. Lol, very proactive if they're meeting up unknown to see about becoming friends. Or maybe a date?
I've not been doing Lion's Pose with this particular yoga sequence but I honestly feel like I've taken Valium after I do it, it's releasing so much from my jaw. Have stuck the link below in case you want to have a look
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NbItEmN16jwxx
