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Ales2:
So very true... an article about N parents and the problems they cause.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-me-in-we/201203/when-narcissist-heads-the-household

Best wishes to everybody here on the board, and you too, Dr. G.

JustKathy:
This is an excellent article. Thanks for sharing.

Dr. Richard Grossman:
Hi Ales2,

Thanks for the article! 

Elisabeth Young-Bruehl certainly sounded like a kindred spirit--the themes she writes about are familiar to all here.

Best,

Richard

sKePTiKal:
I can so relate to the paragraph, where she describes how a child in those situations becomes "nobody".

But, some kids do survive and turn out OK - through some combination of external influence and internal resiliance. I don't think those are the only two outcomes, though. People are way more complicated than that. In my case, I was "ok" on a lot of life-scale ratings... but there were some huge, only half-known and unexplainable items on that kind of list that I didn't realize were also important. Those were the things that tripped me up and grew to crisis level just outside my own internal field of awareness. And that's just one variation of not fitting into the "two kinds of survivors" category... there are a lot more - just as many as there are people.

Maybe it helps to simplify things down to those two kinds of people, to help public awareness of how deeply children in those kinds of families can be injured. I would really like to see some research and studies on what it is that helps people survive that kind of start in life and how they feel "ok" despite it.

sunblue:
Alex:

Thanks so much for sharing this article!  It described perfectly my narcissistic household and my own struggle.  All of it is just so true.  What especially resonated with me when the author described the psychoanalytic method of trying to discover the real child, including asking whether the patient had dreams.  So very sad and true because when children of Ns are not allowed to be children, they have no dreams, either as children or adults.  They don't know who they really are.  I can't help but wonder if these types of children (of whom I am one) can ever really discover that.  How can you know who you are if "you" never existed? 

But a really great article.  Thanks again for sharing.

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