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Question for child rape survivors (A little bit graphic)

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sKePTiKal:
I believe that this kind of mind-body connection is of particular importance to abused kids and perhaps is stronger in them, than the general population. There are so many reasons why we're not able to speak out and ask for help... and yet we're 100% aware of how desperately we NEED help... so the mental/emotional urgency to signal for help moves into the body.

It's a sort of an unconscious survival method, in an ironic sort of way. Nmom's are usually (not always) rather proud of their ability to physically care for their children - while completely oblivious to mental & emotional needs we have. When our needs are expressed physically - they finally notice we need "taking care of". (They're not always happy to do so...)

The practical self-help that works for me is to simply take some time out to pamper myself: whether that's an hour with tea and something I've wanted to read, a nice hot bubble bath, doing my nails - or if there's a bit of anger invovled - weeding a bed or pruning trees... something that has an immediate result of more orderliness... and less chaos... I guess that's why I've always felt housework was therapeutic and soothing!

river:
Thanks for this, 2apenny.  Its helpful for me too, when my mood is low, I love too well to fix it with caffiene, rather than pay the attention it requires.   
river. 

gratitude28:
For all of you who have experienced this crime and have posted here, I want to applaud you for accepting your life and making a new you. It is so wonderful when a person can overcome the awfulness brought upon them by someone else and remove guilt and shame. I just think it's so importnat to be open as you all are - even with such a difficult subject. It erases the shame!

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