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BonesMS:

--- Quote from: Starlight on April 16, 2012, 07:00:52 PM ---Animals don't have birth control, humans do, and there is adoption, even garbage cans.

Maybe nar people have/keep children because they are lonely?

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Nar-people have/keep children to "look good" to others and USE these innocent human beings as EXTENSIONS of themselves as well as slaves.  Remember Mommie Dearest?  She didn't care about the kids she took in, she only cared about her IMAGE.  The NQueenB*tch that gave birth to the NGCB and me?  We were expected/DEMANDED to be mindless/brainless extensions, making HER look good and to NEVER have opinions or lives SEPARATE from HER!

Bones

sKePTiKal:

--- Quote ---Maybe nar people have/keep children because they are lonely?
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This is laser-light perceptive! They're lonely because they don't "play well with others" -- don't have relationship skills, but more than that -- they kinda "objectify" other people (other people as objects that aren't as real/human as themselves). And since they've convinced themselves of their own fabulousness and perfection... they "relate" to kids because the kids are "reflections" of themselves - more me, me, me - and they miss the simple fact that the kid isn't them and is a real, separate, different person in his/her own right.

This is a primary way that fits how I define Ns as "delusional". But that definition can be stretched to PD, mental illness, plain old insanity or crazy...

and the result is the kid experiences really bad parenting, so that's why my brain made the leap to thinking about "growing up feral" or being an orphan with living parents for those of us who survived those kinds of parents.

Nparents really, really don't want to let their kids "go" - or mature - or separate and never, ever recognize that they are adults.... because it would be like cutting off one of their own limbs: they see this as losing a part of themselves. (that idea just now came into my head... it does kinda explain their pathetic "control" issues...)

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