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Meh:

--- Quote from: Twoapenny on April 26, 2012, 12:37:25 AM ---I think it does indicate a mental health problem, rather than a behavioural thing - we can all behave like a-holes but these two take it to another level.

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Sorry about your family. My family sucks @ss also!!

I had a similar response from my mother when a church did something nice for me. My mother responded by being pouty and like an unhappy child that didn't get her way. I have no other way to describe it. Evil?

Not sure if it is part of Narcissism or if it's beyond that. It's definitely far from healthy. Then there is the collusion from other family members that act like it's okay. It becomes the family norm.

Ya know, in a family where the norm is abusive the only thing to do is to subvert.

Thinking about how long it took me to figure out how afflicted my mother and whole family is--I think it has changed the way I view the world. I have a hard time just accepting people as they present themselves socially.

 

Twoapenny:
Starlight, I know what you mean!  I wonder if our 'training' as children - that sort of hyper alertness we have to cultivate in order to predict the future and protect ourselves - also makes us more acutely aware of warning signs as our blindfolds come off and we start seeing the madness for what it is?

I did go through a very unpleasant phase of thinking I had to cut myself off from everyone I knew, because they all showed signs of dysfunction!  I eventually realised that we all have a bit, and it's okay as long as the overall package is good more often than bad.  My mum is just poison, poison, poison.  I've always thought my sister was a victim and pushed into doing nasty things by my mum, but an interesting conversation with an old friend the other night revealed more information I didn't know about, which makes my sister look like an N in her own right!!  I really, really like being around people who just make me feel like they accept me, warts and all.  They're the kind of people I try and spend time with now.

Meh:
Sounds like you have a balanced outlook.  :)

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