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Experience of exiting PD relationship: What would you call it?

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lighter:
Amber,

I responded to your questions by pm. 

Hope you got it.

Salsa, a door stuck to our backsides, frustratingly, sometimes unbearably heavy, sometimes pressing us flat.

Yes.

It's also like having the air sucked oiut of our space.  Like being held hostage.  Like having our children held hostage.  Like being bullied without end.  Pretending to keep the peace, at the expense of our happiness, and sometimes our sanity.

Lighter

lighter:
Beating our heads against an invisible wall, trying to break it down, and distance ourselves if we do.

Trying to have something of sanity left if we finally beat the wall down with our skulls.

Compressed.  Airless.  Truly unbelievable to have insanely untrue accusations made against us, by the PD's, when just telling the truth about the PD's makes us look small, petty and mean.  The whole experience seems so unlikely.

Unlikely.

Meh:
Well, sorry you are going through a down spot with the PD relatives. For a while is sounded like you were doing pretty good.

Sort of like a ----- disease that goes into remission only to come back again, never being totally cured-------

I think that's how it is, things level off, we practice being disengaged to them and sort of feel like MAYBE we can master the problem and move on for good, once and for all. Then it comes back again, sort of levels off, comes back again.

lighter:
MS:

I am doing pretty well dealing with PD relatives.

I was just hoping to be done dealing with them by now.

Lighter

sKePTiKal:
Hi Lighter - I got your PM - but have been abominably busy with business/selling house/and lots & lots of complex company. Both my girls were here this week; one has two elementary school boys -- and that bit of family is too close to being as screwed up as my childhood was. I see a LOT of the same crap... patterns of dysfunction. That takes a toll, and while my other D & I have put a lot of ourselves on the line to try to get her to at least hear us and not simply deny or rationalize or blame... sigh - she knows better than us; she's the expert on her... and our observations are only opinions that do not matter. (I know I thought that, too for awhile... I finally "saw" that gee: if I'm existing in an environment with other people, their perception of me could be just as valid as though old, negative self image beliefs I was clinging to. A cosmic DUH, you know?)

To make matters worse - the cable co. has decided this would be a wonderful time to take the services down - without warning - for maintenance/repairs. I haven't even been able to get my business papers/emails in those small windows of uptime... sigh. This morning, I really really needed some alone time to process some of what I've been feeling and thinking. LOL... and don't you know? I wind up here, reading all the things other people are going through and thinking and some of those stress-engines start to throttle down to idle again.

They're leaving Sunday, so I'll get caught up next week a little more. Sorry about the silence on my part, hon.

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