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gratitude28:
PR and all...
I misinterpret words or misuse them still too. We sometimes read our fears or expectations into what people say. I know I do. My poor husband went through years and years of my misinterpreting so much of what he meant becuase I thought I knew what he was saying... but from the perspective of what I knew my parents to be saying in between the lines... does that make sense???
We are all good people! We are all trying!!

sKePTiKal:
I know just what you mean, Beth.

For years, my hubs would say something that he meant lovingly, constructively - even creatively - and all I "heard" was criticism. I'm OK. I think, because I had to blurt about my D... I really did slip into the royal "we"; it's one of my old tics, from mothering two such hard-headed, different kinds of girls. Being their mom was kinda like driving a team of horses - and both were going in different directions, constantly. I don't like that particular tic, that attribute of myself (it's something I picked up from Mom; I even sound like her - brrrr!) and rather than feeling hurt or angry or whatever... I'm actually thankful and truly do appreciate it when someone calls me on it. It's like when a good friend points out something you do, that you're completely unaware of (and because I was emotionally in a tizzy about A, then... my lens of awareness was all fogged up)... and you do hear it, accept it. realize they just did you a favor!... try to make that change... and go on. No harm done; no hard feelings.

Now, if I could just lead A to that space!! Oh well. Purpose in life, and all that.

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