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lighter:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on August 31, 2012, 09:29:44 PM ---Hi Lighter,
I wrote you a post saying I hoped my "communication" post didn't come across lecturey (busted) but it vanished....
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Hops, what I heard you say in your post was similar to what I was trying to say in my post.
The revelation for me has been to release the expectations my listener will come to conclusions, and to educate the listener only, without expectation.
When I came to this board I was struggling with many things, but the chronic struggle has been learning to speak so I'm not judged for the way I speak. Being disliked, dismissed, and punished bc the listener is offended by my communication style has been catastrophic, in some cases, for me.
Speaking about highly charged emotional issues without emotion is difficult, but necessary.
I feel like I won the lottery :D
Thanks for all your support,
Lighter
lighter:
--- Quote from: mudpuppy on August 31, 2012, 03:46:13 PM ---
--- Quote ---It's a terrible thing to watch people get caught in lies and deceit.
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Hmmm, I have found it one of the most wonderful experiences in life. It's also a wonderful thing to see a smart judge realize just what kind of creeps he or she is dealing with.
--- Quote --- It's a terrible thing to feel such ferocious hatred and animosity directed at me personally by people who aren't trying very hard to control it.
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That is a terrible thing for anyone, but it's also a badge of honor when the people who hate you are the crazy whack jobs who hate all of the decent things in life.
mud
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Again, I have to defer to you..... you're ahead of me by several years in the civil judicial system with your "crazy whack jobs" (CWJ's for short), but I find myself a bit skeptical/hopeful at the same time about best case scenarios, should this Judge really really [i]"get it." [/i]
I'll save my typical whine, (you're very familiar with it) and agree that whatever happens, I'll keep calm and carry on.
I just really really don't want to spend the balance of my children's childhoods in civil courts, but you already know that.
Nuff said.
Lighter
Oh, who am I kidding. IF this Judge gets it, and nothing much comes of these revelations as far as consequences, and accountability goes for the CWJ's......
I'm not sure how demoralizing that will be, Mud. I'm afraid the civil court system is the perfect vehicle for PD CWJ's, and that even when we win, the system costs so much in time, money and energy that we're always going to lose, and that's just not acceptable to me right now. ::shaking head:: When does it end? Does it end?
lighter:
Amber and Tupp:
Thanks for all the support....
I appreciate it.
Light
sKePTiKal:
Yer welcome, Light...
Look - I get your point about losing, even if you technically "win" the suit. It's a valid point.
But there's another one, too -- and that's the point, that you will bounce back easier, faster, and with less "hangover" -- should you legally win. Will it be "over" -- once and for all?
Sigh. We can't know for sure. But it sure gives you a stronger position in the future.
I completely understand your reservations about the judicial system... and whether the judge will "get" what kind of extortion, slander, and spin the CWJs are using to paint a picture of you. I still believe, that the best thing you can do is hold your head up... square your shoulders... know in your heart the truth... and let the CWJs do their damndest. The only thing you can control is you... so breathe through it... and know for a fact, that other people see through distorted claims, self-interest, lies and innuendos just as well as you do.
Ya gotta let them try, anyway. And trust that they know a snake when they see one, too.
mudpuppy:
--- Quote ---but I find myself a bit skeptical/hopeful at the same time about best case scenarios
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We only get to play the hand we're dealt. The best case scenario for a bad hand is never going to be as good as if we were dealt a straight flush, but what are you going to do? Reality is reality.
mud
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