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Sibling problems. . Was this the right thing to do?

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debkor:
Hi Kay

Don't worry about what or how to.....just do.  Take yourself out of the equation.  Narcissist will never stop (Bad mouthing) you to people and the people to you.
That's for sure.  Correction...maybe they will stop because you have made choice to cut them out of your life.

So let's say you did not make that choice.  Here is most likely what is going to happen.  Remember you are emotionally out of the equation.  They are in full bashing mode either about you or another.  The only way you respond is to hang up.  To remove yourself.  To remove them.  To ignore.

Be consistant and they will be the One that will do..low contact.....no contact.   Your not in the N equation.  Your boring to them.

That is how it turned out with my friend.

Don't try to talk to them about their behavior.  Your anything ..feelings...boundaries because they don't think normal. They are mentally ill.

You most certainly can cut them out of your life.  You most certainly can cut yourself out of the way they live and want to interact with you by the above..ignore' hang up' kick out' remove yourself...and really really ..emotionally remove yourself. 


There is no right or wrong decision.  Just different ones.  Whatever feels right for you and yours.

A narcissist one time said they have no friends.  They want it that way. They have acquaintance's.  That is about the only truth I have ever heard.  If your not a friend' nor an acquaintance then they assume they own you (family).

Deb































Sometimes we can spend at the most two days of an enjoyable time.  It's not often. 

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