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Same trap again? How many more?
lighter:
--- Quote from: Lupita on September 06, 2012, 08:50:01 PM ---
Thank you Lighter, though you took forever and only after FP wrote me. I wish I had it just when I was in my down spiral.
But thank you so much.
--- End quote ---
Sorry, Lupita:
I didn't see your post sooner or would have posted sooner...... been dealing with my own demons.
E-mail when you need a quicker response, K?
How're you feeling right now?
Have you thought about boundaries, and how people who obsessively cross them might be getting away with it, bc you don't know how to bat the ball back in a timely, calm efficent, direct manner that cuts down drama, and nips the next infraction in the butt?
It's your responsibility to set boundaries, know what they are, and enforce them. No one else is responsible but you. Focus on the YOU part, and less on what THEY DID parts.
Right now I'm reading Dr. Daniel G. Amen, M.D.'s book titled MAGNIFICENT MIND AT ANY AGE for research I'm doing on ADD, however it's an insightful book with regard to becoming aware of negative thoughts and patterns. If you order it used on Amazon Books it might give you some tools to feel better, ((Lupite.))
Lighter
Lupita:
Thanks hop. You are partly right. Thanks Light. Now, how do I learn about boundaries and how enforce them in a manner that cuts drama? Where? I have no idea.
Please, send good vibs in my direction so I can do well tomorrow. On Firday a group of children misbehaved, (14 yo) and I was blamed of the issue. I have a conference with my boss tomorrow morning and I have a kind fo a bad feeling about it.
Please, pray for me. I am going to dye if I fail again.
lighter:
You're going to be fine, Lupe, and I'll be praying for you.
Keep calm.
Try to focus on what you could do better to problem solve, and stop taking things personal.......
these are problems everyone has with a job, not just you.
If you feel an attack is happening, please please please stop that thinking and instead turn it around in your mind and consider it an opportunity to calmly educate your audience. Their words aren't law, they're engaging you in a dialogue, and you get to tell your side of the story too.
What do you want them to understand?
What kind of support do you need in order to improve the situation?
What kind of support do you think the children need, from you, the staff and parents in these situations?
Calm down. Get some perspective. This isn't the end of the world, it's another challenge in teaching,a nd everyone has them. Not just you ((Lupe.))
Lighter
Lupita:
He sounded nice, and the AP too. He said that the parents complain because they only hear one side. He put me in paid leave and said that will get more information and talk to the kids and calm down the parents. It has been so much suffering. I am so tired. Cjildren 13 yo know right and wrong, they do wrong and it is the teacher's fault.
For ex. one wants the bathroom to wash her hands but she does not want to use a pass she argued and yelled why to use a pass if she is not going to use a br only wash her hands. i sadi you syill need a pass. Another gave me a pass expired, another gave me a pass that belpong to anothewr child, and they get mad bc I dont let them go.
It is crazy. This never happened when I was a child. I was oebdient and respectful. Now it is very hard. I wish I could get a different job. I wish it with all my heart. Why does god kepp me here. I wish I was no here, I wish I sleep.
But I am here and need to over come my problems. I need to get a positive attitud and dothe best I can until I get another job if these people do not get rid of me on Wednesday, he said he si going to help me. Hope he is not using two days to build a case against me. He sadi that if he was going to fire me he would have done it on Friday and not having a meeting today he had a meeting cause he wants to help me.
I am at home just waiting. I cannot. God can. Let God. So I need to have faith that god is with me and will protect me since I have done nothing wrong. Need peace. When I get back I need to be come down and need to be thinking clearle and smile and feel confident. Help me out with that friends. Thank you Ligt.
lighter:
OK, Lupita:
What exactly happened when you dealt with these children over hallpasses?
Did anyone raise their voices? Did anyone get hysterical?
I don't understand what these children are telling their parents that got you put on 2 day leave of absense..... these children should be following the rule, and you should be supported in helping them do that.
Calm down, Lupe. Take a breath.
What's going on with your son?
Lighter
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