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Update from.....Izzy
Izzy_*now*:
Note: To save Hops the embarrassment, she received a Private Message.
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Well, we now have in hand the report from the Defence Medical Examination (DME) that popped up in that quick week. Dr. L., although now it is called an Independent Medical Examination (IME), as was the one for which my Lawyer sent me to Dr. V.
Interesting comparisons: both called me straightforward. Their stuff first!
1.) Dr. L. (for Insurance Co.)…
On examination she is a pleasant woman who seems very straightforward. The mobility of the neck, shoulders, elbows, wrists and fingers were normal. Power was normal throughout the arms, as was tone and coordination. ( I had no pain in those areas that day so forgot to mention it. Anyway, when he was testing my arm strength, I shoved him back and sideways, much to his surprise.)
The funding was cut-off from that after a time and she has had to fund this on her own to carry on with her mobilization and strengthening. (This is the first that is has been acknowledged in writing, that ICBC cut my funding, prematurely.)
As such, she has become more socially isolated. She often does not wear much in the way of clothing around her place to make it easy for her to be able to go to the washroom, as she needs to. (This is the first, including my lawyer, who acknowledges in writing that I barely dress when at home (nightgown and a blouse)….so spend more time ˝ undressed than dressed.)
The difficulty that she has in donning and doffing clothing has made it more difficult for her to access the community. (Ha! donning and doffing!!!!!)
Dr. L. certifies this:
In preparing this report, I certify that I am aware of my duty to assist the court and that I am not to be an advocate for any party. The report that follows is in conformity with that duty. I will, if called upon to give oral or written testimony, give that testimony in conformity with the duty outlined.
Dr. Y, (damned GP) indicated that Iz had two falls in the bedroom and one fall in the bathroom on March 27, 2007. (WOW! Was I drunk?)
That should read, Dr. Y indicated, in his report of March 27, 2007, Iz had two falls in the bedroom and one fall in the bathroom, after her quads had weakened.
2.) Dr. V.
(a) Presentation: Ms. T------- was a straightforward historian (yabbut he never said I was pleasant!)
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So what my lawyer is trying to do is have both sides have all the papers by January 21, 2013. I wrote to him earlier today and told him that I was rehiring Karla as of January 1st, because I had been without therapy for 3 months. I said that my hips were “seizing up” from the lack of manipulation. ( and I don’t mean sex.) He told me, “No More Karla”, back when Dr. V sent his report that took him 5 months to prepare. ( Dr. L was November 30 to today, December 21---Why the difference?….well One thing I will bet is that Dr. L. had all the papers long before we knew I could get a sneaked in, in one week, appointment---. He is good though---never tried to manipulate me into lies.
Lawyer is still trying to brown nose with Dr. V and have a kinesiologist--- no Karla. Even after my morning email, his assistant called, saying lawyer admitted to being behind, and to get moving! Then this is her last day and I have a fill-in for next week---all days are the same to me so they can forget Xmas too!
We have to find a dentist, as the specialist said my case was too difficult.
We have to find a “psycho--- person to give a prognosis re my psychogenic tremors.
N. B means Notez Bien= Note Well
Both Karla and Paul, my lawyer, met in a group of people who owned their own businesses. She did not like him and made it clear. He is the obvious Narcissistic lawyer, but I get to see him in action when he must be pleasant to me, as he is making money from my case! If I find out that he is cutting Karla for some personal reason, well----that is not at all fair! and I will deal with it later.
Karla is neat. When I talk about not feeling my feelings...after spending over 3 years with me, she calls it "Acknowledge and Stuff"...Wow! That's what I do! She has all the words I need!
Karla’s husband has this far Northern job, back and forth and won’t be here for Xmas so she is coming here, we eat vegetarian and I will teach her to crochet, which I promised in 2009.
My sister wrote to me about a client in her Reflexology, or Reiki, who has had a cough for 17 years. It began after her brother was killed in a car accident, and returns every year with her annual cold.--assumes it is psychological. Sis then asks me if I think my tremors are psychological?
I shook my head in despair, as I told her all about psychogenic tremors, somatoform disorder and conversion disorder, that it was all in my head.
I wrote back and wrote as though talking to a child, saying what I already said, then said, “I could have sworn I told you all this, but maybe it was someone who looks like you.”
This followed my asking her the Cause of Mom’s death-- respiratory failure, or heart failure due to respiratory failure? Something like that. She didn’t remember any cough--- OMG!
I vividly described the coughing the hoiking and the hoyking, the spitting, the whatever gruesome stuff that Mom went through, said I saw it in the hospital or in her home, but maybe it was just someone who looked like Mom, and THEN Sis remembered.
Gee, i guess I was worm out, ot thought this was boring, whatever, and just stopped there, so I will sign it
Merry Christmas to to all and to all a Happy New Year!
Iz the whiz
Hopalong:
Brave, enduring Izz...I hope you and Karla have a cozy, happy, lovely Christmas
day. She is lucky to have such fun with her favorite client, and learn to crochet too!
I will send you lots of light and hopes for some restful sleep and comfortable days
(all of them).
love
Hops
Izzy_*now*:
Hi all.
Just an update to say all appears to be going well.
My lawyer admitted to the kinesiolgist, Cory, that he "dropped the ball" regarding my aquatic therapy. He didn't listen to me but, instead, interrupted what I was trying to say , to say that his father would say, "I don't give sh*t'! I was some disappointed in him, and he has not told me that he 'goofed'.
Meanwhile, The Insurance Co.'s Physiatrist, our Physiatrist, my kinesiologist, my physical therapist and Karla all agree with the fact that I require 'indefinite therapy to prevent deterioration". Now that our Physiatrist is in agreement, my lawyer is still the only one who has not acknowledged to me that they all agree. I hope he is totally deflated!
I am helping his assistants to prepare the quantification. In doing so, I emailed my lawyer to let him know that I want to see the final and exact accounting of this claim. I pointed out that I wanted every last cent that I spent out of pocket for Karla and medications, wheelchair and cushions, barbells and exercise rope------
Because if he is is entitled to receive 1/3rd of my settlement, why is he allowed 1/3rd of what I spent out of pocket? (to believe in myself and keep this claim going) and why 1/3rd of what I will be awarded to pay Karla for my lifetime? and 1/3rd of the HomeCare I will receive when I can no long live independently? etc.
The only section is non-pecuniary damages, that is mine alone, "loss, pain and suffering", and he will receive 1/3rd of that as well.
Tomorrow, the 27th is 3 years and 10 months since the accident, therefore just 2˝ months until April 15, the Court Date.
I know he has worked hard for me, but at times I suspect he did not believe in me and it was only my being stubborn and pushing that has dragged this out so that he receives more.
Nevertheless, I must admit, that I do NOT know how much he has paid out to arrange the meeting with these specialists and charges me no interest on this money. (He mentioned that, all told, for his clients, he has about ˝ $million "out there". (The only idea that I have about a 'cost' to him is that our Physiatrist charges $8,000.00 for a Court appearance. The Physiatrist has had to change his report THREE times for things he guessed at but never asked me.....so even the most educated can mess up! The 3 things were 1.) I do not have a lift on my car, never have had, and he said that I did, in his report: 2.) He said that my footcare was not because of this 'index' accident and it is, as I could do my feet for all the years prior: 3.) He recommended aqua therapy with a kinesiologist, so that I could be "on my own" in 3 months and I heavily objected, so the kinesiologist visited me at home FOUR times and her report states that there is no way that the aqua therapy is a " safe, effective and dignified" exercise for me, let alone for her own Safety as well, on the wet tile pool deck! ( Ha ha!) She added arm exercises to my routine with Karla and an Occupational Therapist added a hi-boy toilet and a power bath chair to prevent my having to lower my weight into the tub, and raise it back up again.
All things considered, my lawyer has done quite well by me, but I must thank God that I have a brain and can now speak up for myself. perhaps this long wait, in the long run, has taught us both something.
The only area whereby I have no positive feedback is about the gnashing of my teeth during tremors, and now my teeth are out of line. My lower jaw went out of line in 2009, but snapped back in when I bought the mouthguard. Now I've spent over a week with eye pain, headaches, neck pain , sleeplessness and realized my jaw is/was steadily out of line. I worked it back eventually and today was the first day without cerebellum pain (the nerve thereunder), eyeball pain and headaches--- now to keep this up until I see someone, as chewing causes temple pain--OMG! Why didn't the damned car kill me!??????--- and I'm living on soup!
i am also sick of that one sister telling me what I ought to do, that we are not e-mailing anyore and I am happy about that--- It's because she is family and "knows it all"!---I actually think they all wish I would "just go away".
I have Karla, and Jan (a gal I met here about 10 years ago, but her partner was an N-- she finally left him and we talked and she cannot get over how "wise I am"--- she just never knew About NDP. She has another male friend, who is my next door neighbour so I love it when they come together to see me, but they aren't dating--- He's 57 and a "doll" and she is 50 and I want to see them together. I have 2 friends from Ontario who telephone but I still value my solitude. it's been a long messy life and it will be worse in an old folks' home!
Love to all
Izzy
lighter:
Izz:
It's been a long road getting to that courtroom....
I hope it goes well for you.
Lighter
Hopalong:
Your court date's on my calendar
for waves of white light, Izzy!
lots of love, courage, steady,
one day at a time and you are verrrry alive...
APRIL 15
Hops
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