Update from.....Izzy

[Izzy_*now*]

Lighter

I won't know what happened until I see something on paper, such as numbers. There will be 2 cheques. One quote from my lawyer (what does it cover) does not add up, so he is guessing

I learned that The Insurance Company is just now going over all my expenses of FOUR years. The adjuster didn't know they hadn't paid for the w'chair I bought in 2009, nor what the grocery delivery charges were, no records. I had records....to be refunded.

All the time spent on Future Care and being prematurely incarcerated was wasted time because that is part of Part VII and just goes on the shelf--not likely ever to be revisited, per my lawyer.

I got so angry when the lawyer's Assistant said that all I spent on Karla would not be refunded...yada yada, as I wrote to twoapenny... anger, an emotion that poued out about unfairness, and now I have no more tremors. I swear they have disappeared, after 4 years. There was one side of my left knee that I couldn't bear to have touched. It was so tender it would set off the tremors. Now it is no longer paining, plus no tremors. Those tremors where in my mind, but visible... I spout anger, and they are gone. Makes sense? Why didn't someone let me know"

I swear that no one has a crazier life than mine, and I have no idea what's on the horizon.

I didn't get Karla. I pay her from my settlement, therapy and "up higher" housekeeping.

Dizzy Izzy

[lighter]

Skits:

I'm glad you're experiencing relief.... going to court is a terrible burden.  I understand.

I am concerned about your not having a written deal in hand, however.  Even a handwritten one would be necessary before taking your case off the calendar, IME.

I'm sure your attorney gave you enough info to feel comfortable, but I'm still concerned..... every attorney who told me to take a deal, or got a case dismissed without a trial ended up causing me overt trauma.... I had to go anyway, and almost always my position was weakened bc more funds and time and trauma were involved.

Every time I ever had a moment's respite thinking I really didn't have to go to court, it was just another attorney's delusion, and I had to go every single time, sometimes twice as much as I thought I would in the beginning. 

Greedy/bad people don't want to do what's fair, or decent unless you hold their feet to the fire in a courtroom, IME.

Ins Co's want to break you down, and make you give up so they don't have to pay you.  They collect premiums, they aren't in the business to pay claims..... I'm hoping your attorney didn't take your case off the calendar until he has a signed deal in hand is all I'm saying.  Having your hopes dashed, being insulted by the Ins Co who has another 2 years of jerking you around in mind would be terrible for your mental and physical health, IMO.  I'm happy you're experiencing relief bc you don't have to go to court... I just don't know what the reality will be.  The vast majority of attorneys don't want to go to court.  They'll have their clients agree to stupid things to get out of trying a case, IME..... even the bulldog, capable attorneys do it.

The Ins Co  should have to go to court, on time, if they can't hammer out a fair deal in rapid fashion, IME. .... before the original courtdate, IMO. They shouldn't get a chance to dismiss this case, then screw you around for 7 more months with offers that aren't fair, then you have to start all over again, gear up for war, and wait for more court dates.

That's the way bad people with bad intentions operate in the courts, Izz. 

That's the reality.

I'm hopeful for you, but experience tells me you may have more struggle ahead.
I'm going through that very thing right now.....

shortcuts, with evil people, aren't short cuts at all.

They're strategic moves that add time, money, and suffering in hopes of wearing us down.  Making us go away empty handed.  I think it's one of the things choking up the legal system.

Lighter

Lighter

I won't know what happened until I see something on paper, such as numbers. There will be 2 cheques. One quote from my lawyer (what does it cover) does not add up, so he is guessing

I learned that The Insurance Company is just now going over all my expenses of FOUR years. The adjuster didn't know they hadn't paid for the w'chair I bought in 2009, nor what the grocery delivery charges were, no records. I had records....to be refunded.

All the time spent on Future Care and being prematurely incarcerated was wasted time because that is part of Part VII and just goes on the shelf--not likely ever to be revisited, per my lawyer.

I got so angry when the lawyer's Assistant said that all I spent on Karla would not be refunded...yada yada, as I wrote to twoapenny... anger, an emotion that poued out about unfairness, and now I have no more tremors. I swear they have disappeared, after 4 years. There was one side of my left knee that I couldn't bear to have touched. It was so tender it would set off the tremors. Now it is no longer paining, plus no tremors. Those tremors where in my mind, but visible... I spout anger, and they are gone. Makes sense? Why didn't someone let me know"

I swear that no one has a crazier life than mine, and I have no idea what's on the horizon.

I didn't get Karla. I pay her from my settlement, therapy and "up higher" housekeeping.

Dizzy Izzy

[Izzy_*now*]

Hi lighter,

I had until yesterday to accept or reject the offer and have just now (Saturday) written to my lawyer, if that is why I haven't heard what's happening. I asked him if my court date was cancelled.

I am still keeping my trust in my lawyer, since this is a settlement out of court, and hope that is the case.

I can't allow myself to become too worked up over something that hasn't happened--- like the "fear of the unknown"----could be nothing. I cannot say, though, that I am not "worked up"

Later when news changes

Izzy

[lighter]

Hi lighter,

I had until yesterday to accept or reject the offer and have just now (Saturday) written to my lawyer, if that is why I haven't heard what's happening. I asked him if my court date was cancelled.

I am still keeping my trust in my lawyer, since this is a settlement out of court, and hope that is the case.

I can't allow myself to become too worked up over something that hasn't happened--- like the "fear of the unknown"----could be nothing. I cannot say, though, that I am not "worked up"

Later when news changes

Izzy

Izz, did your attorney put off your court date, or worse yet, dismiss your case?

Promising to finally do the right thing and settle out of court with a fair agreement is only possible bc your courtdate was coming up...... the ins co could have done that any time over the last 4 years.  They haven't.

The pressure is off for the ins co to make a fair agreement if the court date went away.  They know you and your attorney don't want to go to court...... don't let them promise you the world then give you the dick, when you're ready to go to court, and prepared.  You can pass notes to your attorney the entire trial, and keep him on track, no matter how badly he's prepared.
Lighter

[Izzy_*now*]

I had to get up early for bathroom ceiling painters and am glad no court. I asked Paul about cancelling, his response said nothing, so I guess it is all out-of-court now, but I did gain one thing that threw me. By accepting the offer, I "cut off" my Future Care i.e. early incarceration would be expensive, but P. assures me he is keeping that open should it be needed.

Those parts bothered me with people speculating on when my arms will give out, when I will die and no two people said the same. I guess my mind went into shock when no one knows those answers and I was cutting it off to settle---had only one week to decide, before Court, which would have been today.  Dirty Trick! and a high enough offer that no way of knowing if we could beat it in Court. If not then I would have paid all the court costs! $10,000-$50,000.

I expect there is more to come!
xx
Iz

[lighter]

I really hope this is over soon for you, Izz.

Lighter

[Izzy_*now*]

Thanks lighter,

---- and now it nearly is. Lawyer came yesterday with 2 cheques, I signed the Waiver, and will have another cheque when their accounting is in order.

Knowing he was coming, I 'prepared myself for action", not to gush all over a Narcissistic slime ball, but to lay it on the line, and forced myself into a frame of mind that every 'mess' that happened that screwed me up, I was prepared to mention. I was ½ friendly, ½ not and no smiling, no crying.

It seems that no matter what, the cheques are not broken down (itemized) so how do I know for what I am being reimbursed? He "has no memory" so cannot quote to me!

I awakened this morning with $thousand$ in the drawer and not even thrilled because all it takes is an N to spoil the moment.

I was sure to mention to him that the tide changed the day he said to me, on the phone, "I don't give a shi*t!" . He was taken aback but certainly remembered when I quoted the circumstances, and then I said that from that point on I knew I would never have another say in what transpired. It wasn't my way. It was his, while I awaited news that never came, and watched for anything that would rid Karla from my life. There is a story there, and NOW, I will ask her. (We never discussed it while he was still working on my case! They were members of the same Business club.)

I am so far behind in my work, pain, stiff neck, headaches, Karla's surgery, car out of gas, battery likely dead now, places to go, snow to shovel, grass to cut,  yada yada

xx
Izzy

[Hopalong]

Post-settlement blues, Izz?
But was it a good settlement, do you think, even if not itemized?

(If I understand, it was the insurance company's lawyer that delivered the checks?)

I am very glad it's over, Izz. I hope soon the most important things are also in line...mainly KARLA.

Keep us posted.
Rest up.

You've been running on adrenalin for soooo long.

Kudos and I hope some good feelings will come along soon, when you've had a chance to catch your breath.

love to you,
Hops

[lighter]

Izz:

Certainly you're a woman of numbers and you had a ballpark figure of what your bottom line was.

I have to assume the checks were somewhere in the "fair" range, or you wouldn't have accepted the deal. 

Congrats, and I'm hoping everything (tremors, pain) calms down with all the legal troubles over.

(((Izz)))

You're an amazing survivor.

Lighter

[Izzy_*now*]

Hi Hops and Lighter, and anyone else who becomes "unknowingly screwed up" when trauma strikes.

Karla was here today and told me of my lawyer’s Narcissistic behaviour at this Breakfast Club that both attended. (I am making her a gift of one mortgage "pay-down", $35,000,000, right off the bat (She told me what a slime ball he had been.) so that whatever befalls me with her being my POA, medical and financial, and whatever hardships I might put her through, I know that she deserves that, and more----she is also in my Will, like the daughter I never had!

Being he was always a slime ball, makes me more happy that I assumed the mood I had to deal with him. It was difficult but then came easier as I went on with my "routine".

As he sat down at the table, he shoved the Waiver right under my nose, and I casually shoved it off to the side, like a scrap of paper. No way he would leave without my signature and I made that appear so insignificant, and "said my Say". He was never once nasty or Nish except for blowing his horn on the settlement.  I could see the charm turned on and other such signs, but "was not myself" to him, and I said, that I am not the same person who was run down 4 years ago. When I finally reached for the Waiver to read, he offered to explain it to me. I said "No need! I understand. I am just looking to see if that 'certain phrase"  has been removed!"

Then I said, "I look at these cheques and what do they mean? Nothing! When I will be in pain, blah-blah, the rest of my life, and you know the hard times that were given me by the Specialists who thought I was malingering." He finally admitted that the Insurance Company had been very cruel in cutting my funding so quickly that I had to pay for things myself..... and I pointed out that nothing was agreed upon for future therapy or house help...because everyone was, as he said, seeing me in a chair but not in action.  (Karla calls herself my 'life companion", and will be here on pouring rainy days, snow days, for odd little errands that are out of whack for me, and therapy).

No post-settlement blues, Hops, just a calmness that is been with me for a few days....that tells me that I was so stressed out-- the adrenalin and all that must have crept up on me slowly because of all the drugs at the beginning. I have slept like a baby, no nightmares, no tremors (was zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz-ing away when Karla arrived at 1:30 p.m.)

Another friend, Janice, is coming to vacuum under my bed....I shouldn't have looked but had dropped something but put the bedside light on the floor to shine under  then on my tummy on the bed I looked under and nearly croaked from the dust. (There are places I know of but never see. That was supposed to be one. One learns to  live that way!)

Another $5,000.00 or whatever, still coming, as they are working on the figures, and I said that if I worked for him the figures would already be known. He prides himself  on being the only person who knows what is going on.  Hoity-toity!

Xx
Izz

[lighter]

Izz:

Rest.

Respite.

Joy.

Serenity.

Does that new daughter of yours have children? 

What are you plans now?  Are you and Karla going to do some traveling? 

Lighter

[Izzy_*now*]

Mornin' lighter,

Just putting the laundry together, and am going to the bank later.

Karla has no children, as she was injured when a car hit her on her bicycle. She and her husband appear to be very happy without children and she actually said that she feels blessed not having any in this day and age.

She has plans and goals, one of which is to own her own Yoga Studio. Last June, if you remember, I foot the bill for her to go to Victoria to take the teacher's course and now she is busy all the time. ....things that a parent might do to help a child.... as I lost all my others chances. She won't even allow me to hire another woman for cleaning. She will do it all--- why she says she will always be my life companion,--rainy days, snowy days, need a Rx? whatever, but I still have to see how that works out, whether it will be at her convenience, or at mine----

Her husband works up North in Alberta, making the bucks, but then will be laid off for 2 months.

Because she (my therapy ) was not included in the settlement, I worked out a way to have her here, once a week, and not run through money as before. (I wouldn't doubt that my lawyer never fought for me to have her---- because of their history, but I cannot prove it. I did make reference to his never supporting her good work for me over the last 3+ years.)....I'll drop a hint the next time I see him.  He had suggested a girl for Karla to train and work with me, and I would pay less, but we did that when she was gone last June, and if someone is not really into it, it shows

So now that the claim is settled, and she (they) is (are) "on her way", I'll be back to my regular frugal living style, and I don't need much. There will be no trips etc. I'm just in bad enough shape, that staying in my own home is more comfortable than traveling.

Maybe even my time on the forum is coming to an end, as well, because the ordeal is over and life will be very dull and repetitive, just as have been the past 4 years---yet there was an ending to that. It came.

xx
Izzy

[Twoapenny]

Hi Izzie,

Well I hope you don't vanish from the forum it just wouldn't be the same without you.  My life feels very dull and routine a lot of the time but sometimes that's what we need to talk about and push back and forth.  I listen to some of my friends going on about their holiday plans and their days out and their evenings away and so on and I can't identify with any of it, it's just a life I can't and don't lead.  I think we all need people that understand the fact that we managed to get out of bed today was a big achievement, or that we got around to clearing out a drawer or cupboard or cooked a nice meal - little things that mean so much more when your world gets smaller.  A friend asked me today whether anything exciting had happened this week and the only out of the ordinary thing I could think of was that the cat hurt her tail    For me it was quite a big deal; paying for the vet is a problem so I only go if absolutely necessary so there was a lot of reading up on the internet and chasing the cat round trying to look at something she didn't want me to touch so I could decide whether I needed to go or not - mind numbingly dull to some but it's my life and we do the best we can with what we've got, right?  I'm glad this chapter is drawing to a close for you and hope for good things for you and Karla from now on xx

[lighter]

Mornin' lighter,


Because she (my therapy ) was not included in the settlement, I worked out a way to have her here, once a week, and not run through money as before. (I wouldn't doubt that my lawyer never fought for me to have her---- because of their history, but I cannot prove it. I did make reference to his never supporting her good work for me over the last 3+ years.)....I'll drop a hint the next time I see him.  He had suggested a girl for Karla to train and work with me, and I would pay less, but we did that when she was gone last June, and if someone is not really into it, it shows

So now that the claim is settled, and she (they) is (are) "on her way", I'll be back to my regular frugal living style, and I don't need much. There will be no trips etc. I'm just in bad enough shape, that staying in my own home is more comfortable than traveling.

Maybe even my time on the forum is coming to an end, as well, because the ordeal is over and life will be very dull and repetitive, just as have been the past 4 years---yet there was an ending to that. It came.

xx
Izzy

I'm thinking that the 35K you paid off on Karla's house should be worth some therapy on an ongoing basis, perhaps indefinitely? 

Hopefully you won't need the board, and can turn to uplifting, happy endeavors.  You deserve it.
Lighter

[Hopalong]

Izzz....

NO need to make any decisions about the Board just now, eh?

I hope you'll be hopping in any old time to talk about any old thing at all.

love to you,
Hops