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Why Does This Bother Me Still?????

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Hopalong:
I think Beth's sorrow is mainly at seeing her elderly Dad kind of trapped by his wife's compulsion.

That's what made me sad about reading the story, anyway...

To know his health is endangered makes it harder to turn away.

xxoo
Hops

gratitude28:
Thank you all for your responses.

Hops - yes, the situation with my dad bothers me a lot. Sometimes I am upset with him, too, for allowing her to act as she does and for not taking personal responsibility. But I also know that living with an N means putting up with a lot to avoid the nastiness.... I feel sad often that he chose to live his life with her and repeat the relationship he had with his mother.

Two - Our moms sound very similar and our lives too. Yes, I am sure I have some risidual anger, although I have tried to let most of it go. I despise Christmas time when she acts like a spoiled brat and asks what the kids want, but there's always that line of asking too much when in fact we'd prefer not to really do gifts...

PR - I know you are right. I am always wondering if an agency will end up getting involved... if they will end up in the news. NM would never understand - she can't see how disgusting her surroundings are. Dad can, and that is what is sad.

Thanks for understanding, lighter. It's ugly no matter what way you look at it.

TT - the one thing I am truly happy about is that dad is reconnecting with his family and us. He finally feels a bit relaxed being retired, so he is happier than I have ever seen him.

Thank you all for your insight and input. It helps me a lot. I can't tell you how much of what you have shared I have used to make order of my life.

xo Beth

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