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Ns, empathy and death of a close friend

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teartracks:




Hops I'm with you.


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fraidycat:
It's scary how heartless and self centered N's can be. When my sister in-law died in a car accident ( she was in her early 30's) my n-mom and I went to her parents house to meet with her large family and help make funeral arrangements. N-Mom expected the family to console her and offered no consoling or support. It made me sick, everyone started to notice her lack of empathy and she knew it so she started to imitate me to look normal...one sister pointed it out. Then when the family asked if we wanted to chip in for flowers n-mom sat stone cold and just stared at me. I wanted to so I spoke up and offered. She wouldn't even chip in for the lunch they ordered for her that day, she could easily afford it, I had a young family. Then on the way home she tried to get us lost by screaming at me to head north east on the turnpike. We lived west of them and she knew it. It was my first time on the turnpike, I think she was just trying to screw me up so she could have another dumb Fraidycat story to tell. I didn't fall for it. When it came to accepting empathy from neighbors and friend she was all over it. She even told my grieving N-brother "just wait if you think it's bad now, all the people who care today will forget about you in a few months" and "don't bother with therapy you'll just have to listen to other peoples problems" this was before the funeral. She never would have pulled that crap with the family if they had friends in common she loves to keep up appearances. Bat shit crazy is right, it's all about them and it's sad.

BonesMS:

--- Quote from: fraidycat on December 29, 2012, 11:17:26 PM ---It's scary how heartless and self centered N's can be. When my sister in-law died in a car accident ( she was in her early 30's) my n-mom and I went to her parents house to meet with her large family and help make funeral arrangements. N-Mom expected the family to console her and offered no consoling or support. It made me sick, everyone started to notice her lack of empathy and she knew it so she started to imitate me to look normal...one sister pointed it out. Then when the family asked if we wanted to chip in for flowers n-mom sat stone cold and just stared at me. I wanted to so I spoke up and offered. She wouldn't even chip in for the lunch they ordered for her that day, she could easily afford it, I had a young family. Then on the way home she tried to get us lost by screaming at me to head north east on the turnpike. We lived west of them and she knew it. It was my first time on the turnpike, I think she was just trying to screw me up so she could have another dumb Fraidycat story to tell. I didn't fall for it. When it came to accepting empathy from neighbors and friend she was all over it. She even told my grieving N-brother "just wait if you think it's bad now, all the people who care today will forget about you in a few months" and "don't bother with therapy you'll just have to listen to other peoples problems" this was before the funeral. She never would have pulled that crap with the family if they had friends in common she loves to keep up appearances. Bat shit crazy is right, it's all about them and it's sad.

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((((((((((((Fraidycat))))))))))))))))))))))))

It is sad.  I wish we could ship all of them off to a rubber room, somewhere, lock it up, and throw away the key!

Bones

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