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SilverLining:

--- Quote from: fraidycat on January 29, 2013, 03:21:35 PM ---. N-mom walked in and actually picked out her favorite floor board and said "I like this one!... it's the pretty one!"
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Hi  FC.   They really are big on making absurd distinctions in order to prop themselves up.   A favorite floor board?   

I suppose it gives them a feeling of power and authority.  They are the ones who get to decide which is the pretty one and then present this as objective truth.   They are the masters in their little N reality.   Everybody else is just a prop.

I hear this kind from stuff from my circle of N's all the time.  It's an endless litany of what they like and don't like, what they are for and against.   And there's the tendency to  present these distinctions as if it's some sort of ultimate answer.  There is no opening for other opinions or reciprocal discussion.   

fraidycat:
So true, I can relate and completely agree with all of your responses. I love the clarity, it really helps me.

Reality doesn't matter to them, upholding a false image is more important than the truth or family. Their opinions are stated as if they are facts and if you dare to disagree they'll take it out on you. It always seemed like brainwashing to me. If N-mom didn't think you were on the same page with her thoughts and opinions she would either ridicule, punish or repeat her opinions over and over until she was convinced that it stuck.

Unfortunately we won't know anyone else going to the wedding unless my brother invites my three cousins on Dad's side. Two are okay but we don't know them well the other is siding with my n-mom. The last time I talked to her she called to pump me for info about my family then when she got what she wanted started attacking me so I hung up on her. Knowing the N's in the family they will try to pull everyone in my family away from me so I won't have anyone to talk to, if it happens the museum is a good outlet. Plus my brother plans on booking us all in the same hotel. I might have to do some research on the area and check my options.

fraidycat:
I'm puzzled about why Teartracks post on this thread with Dr. G's link disappeared. I wondered if I may have deleted it on accident, I don't think so but if I did wouldn't I have gotten a message asking "Are you sure you wan't to delete" ? I'm not sure how this works but I know tt didn't delete it. I'm just trying to understand and clear things up.

fraidycat:
Understandable tt, I'm glad we could clear it up. I had a root canal done a few years ago, you have my sympathy the days leading up to it were more painful than child birth for me. I hope you have an easy recovery. Thanks for explaining I was second guessing myself too. Take care and feel better.

Fraidy

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