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Gaining Strength:
Ugh.
Maybe it's become crystal clear because it is aaallllll about to change for you. Read the post river made about new friends on my thread. I totally think that might be what's going . Why not?
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Gaining Strength on July 13, 2014, 04:53:36 PM ---Ugh.
Maybe it's become crystal clear because it is aaallllll about to change for you. Read the post river made about new friends on my thread. I totally think that might be what's going . Why not?
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Hi GS,
Have read it and, yes, I think you might be right. The emotional pull just isn't there now. I don't know what on earth I've been doing. But I do feel stronger and more resilient. Weird, I can't really put it into words to well. But I think it does bode well for the future. Thanks xx
Gaining Strength:
I am so glad to read that you feel stronger and more resilient. Such good news.
Hopalong:
Hi Tupp--
I just have this to offer, fwiw--
It's absolutely totally NORMAL to repeat patterns learned in childhood. Normal normal normal!
The great thing is that as you spot them, you can "set it on the table and back away slowly..."
Sure, it's aggravating to spot yourself tripping over the same log. But really, you're young, and you have lots of years of nimble dancing ahead. Eventually it'll just be "how you walk."
I believe you'll wind up just automatically steering past the familiar force fields with people that are toxic, and it won't be effortful to choose people and be drawn to them--who are wholesome and positive for you. Like any new positive thing, it just takes repeated exposure and practice.
That is does feel effortful and difficult now does not mean it won't become easier. It will!
That's all I wanted to say...I heard your discouragement.
love,
Hops
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Gaining Strength on July 14, 2014, 02:04:37 PM ---I am so glad to read that you feel stronger and more resilient. Such good news.
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Thank you, GS :)
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