Question about nursing standards and ethics

[lighter]

A friend is dying, and not in her right mind at this time.

A hospice nurse, someone  my dying friend actually put through nursing school, is coming by the house, bossing everyone around, and not helping with care needs.

What she's doing is locking herself in the back bedroom, getting my friend alone, and having my friend write her checks, then she leaves.

I was there recently when that hospice nurse lied 3 times about when she'd be coming by that day.... and into the night.

She just didn't show, and when my friend called to see when she'd be there, she'd lie again, and not show.

It struck me as very wrong, and then I find out today she only shows up when ONE particular person, a new caregiver with a very soft demeanor, is in the house alone with my friend.

The hospice nurse couldn't shut anyone else out and get away with what she's doing....

does anyone know anything about nursing standards and ethics about these things>

hhaw

[Izzy_*now*]

If your friend is “not in her right mind“, as I perceive the phrase, she wouldn’t know if she were signing to pay a hydro bill or a visa payment, or….?

As long as she is signing, the cheques will cash, BUT if she has a Power of Attorney, said person must visit the bank with your friend to set the situation in motion that the POA signs the cheques.

I am going by my case, as Karla and I did NOT get to the bank together, so she had to come to me to sign the cheques..

Signing cheques behind closed doors sounds very suspicious. Can you ask your friend if she has a POA? Now her state of mind adds a dimension that didn’t happen in my case!

The Best
Izzy

[lighter]

Thanks, Izzy.

I'll see about the POA thing. 
lighter

[Hopalong]

I would just immediately call whatever organization in your area responds to elder abuse claims.
Financial abuse is one. And if you report a misbehaving hospice person to the hospice for
which she works...

I hope those ideas help.

SO sad.

Hops

[lighter]

I'm going to contact elder abuse in her County.

Thanks, Hops

[teartracks]

Another option is to contact the agency in your state that licenses nurses.  They will know what to do. 

tt

[lighter]

My friend, H, is losing her mind, and becoming very hateful to her primary caregivers.

They've been there for her for many many years, and at 10.00 an hour, I don't think they should have to suffer abusive treatment..... though I see that change in character further proof H isn't in her right mind.

At any rate, they intend to honor H's request that no caregiver be scheduled in this weekend.....

as she's planning to have K, the bad hospice worker, handle it.

IF K shows up, she'll likely sleep, get a check, and leave H sitting in her own filth, unattended to when she calls, which has happened in the past. 

Likely the primary caregivers will receive a frantic call from H when she finds herself alone, or unable to get to the toilet bc K is ignoring her.

It's concerning.

lighter

[Hopalong]

It's horrible.

Did you get any response or guidance from the relevant agencies, Lighter?

What steps to take?

xo
Hops

[lighter]

Hops:

The information on elder abuse seems to be about giving money to the cause, and what they're supposed to do, though I find nothing that is of direct help NOW.

Everyone is holding their breath, waiting for K to blow it this weekend, so that H can see, feel, KNOW what K is doing, and what she is, and what that she can't be counted on.

I want to shake H, but she's in no mood to be challenged.  Frankly, it's her money, and I can't make her give it to the helpful, kind caregivers in her life, which is what I wish she'd actually DO with it, anymore than I can keep her from giving it all away to a predator, though I know I'll be contacting the predator's supervisors if another check shows up. 

That seems to be H's cousins' take on it too..... to wait and see, since H snapped their heads off for showing concern, and accused them of wanting her money.  Ouch.

No one wants to upset H, and no one wants to get their head snapped off when they attempt to protect her. 

Honeslty, I don't want to remember H with bulging eyes, and screaming and throwing things at me. 

The last time I saw her she put her head on me in the hallway, and looked up with tears in her eyes.  It was touching, and I know it's very selfish, but I don't want to see her lose herself in madness.  She's one of the most pragmatic people I've ever known, and it's terrible her caregivers are suffering with her deterioration, but......

I'm her friend, not her caregiver, and I have my hands full right now with a friend dying unexpectedly, my mother's ongoing battle with cancer, and other family problems.......

I don't want to battle her over money, or be accused of caring for her money like the others who spoke up with their concerns.

If the primary caregiver wasn't so much like John Coffey, from The Green Mile I'd feel better about doing nothing.  As it is, I feel rotten, but I'm shying away from that struggle out of self preservation.

In the end, it will likely be me filing a complaint with her supervisors, and you guys can just picture John Coffey as your prime witness in the matter. 

lighter