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Twoapenny

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Not thinking about them much
« on: June 04, 2013, 02:16:27 PM »
I realised this morning that I don't think about my family much anymore.  That emotional pull just isn't as strong as it used to be.  There are still aspects of my life that I struggle with and want to work on but that whole family thing just doesn't seem to have the same power over me that it used to.  A good thing!  Thought I'd share in case it helps anyone else who's swamped down by it all at the minute.

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Re: Not thinking about them much
« Reply #1 on: June 07, 2013, 11:39:50 AM »
Tupp:

I'm glad to read things are getting better.  I think we get stronger by hard won increments....

it's a process, and there's no shortcuts to serenity.

::shaking head::

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Re: Not thinking about them much
« Reply #2 on: June 07, 2013, 01:21:15 PM »
Tupp:

I'm glad to read things are getting better.  I think we get stronger by hard won increments....

it's a process, and there's no shortcuts to serenity.

::shaking head::

Lighter

Defintely agree.  There's a whole range of emotions to work through but yes, the old habits lessen, new ones get stronger and there's less and less space for silly people :)

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Re: Not thinking about them much
« Reply #3 on: June 07, 2013, 05:04:52 PM »
Hi Tupp.  I am having the same experience, which is probably why I haven't been posting much in recent months.  I still think about the FOO situation, but it has become more of a mental consideration and less of an emotional trap.  They are all nuts.  There's nothing I can do about it.  And obsessing over the situation doesn't do me any good.   Acceptance while maintaining distance is key.. 

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Re: Not thinking about them much
« Reply #4 on: June 08, 2013, 05:10:50 AM »
Hi Tupp.  I am having the same experience, which is probably why I haven't been posting much in recent months.  I still think about the FOO situation, but it has become more of a mental consideration and less of an emotional trap.  They are all nuts.  There's nothing I can do about it.  And obsessing over the situation doesn't do me any good.   Acceptance while maintaining distance is key.. 

Hi, Silver!

Yes, I completely agree.  It's as if their tentacles are losing suction :)  The distance and lack of contact have helped (by distance I mean emotional, geographically they're very close).  And being able to be objective and turn situations around - would I do the same?  Do I think this is fair? reasonable? do I trust their opinion?  You know the answers to all of those questions.
So yes, mental consideration rather than emotional trap is a good way to put it.

I'm glad things are levelling out for you, too :) xx

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Re: Not thinking about them much
« Reply #5 on: June 14, 2013, 09:39:38 PM »
A sure sign of healing Tupp. I had the same experience until my brothers wedding came up, now I feel like I'm relapsing because I know I will have to deal with four of them and their families in a few months and that brings it all back. That will be over soon and I'll get through it. The more distance the better for all.