Hi Tupp. I am having the same experience, which is probably why I haven't been posting much in recent months. I still think about the FOO situation, but it has become more of a mental consideration and less of an emotional trap. They are all nuts. There's nothing I can do about it. And obsessing over the situation doesn't do me any good. Acceptance while maintaining distance is key..
Hi, Silver!
Yes, I completely agree. It's as if their tentacles are losing suction

The distance and lack of contact have helped (by distance I mean emotional, geographically they're very close). And being able to be objective and turn situations around - would I do the same? Do I think this is fair? reasonable? do I trust their opinion? You know the answers to all of those questions.
So yes, mental consideration rather than emotional trap is a good way to put it.
I'm glad things are levelling out for you, too

xx