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Twoapenny:
I realised this morning that I don't think about my family much anymore.  That emotional pull just isn't as strong as it used to be.  There are still aspects of my life that I struggle with and want to work on but that whole family thing just doesn't seem to have the same power over me that it used to.  A good thing!  Thought I'd share in case it helps anyone else who's swamped down by it all at the minute.

lighter:
Tupp:

I'm glad to read things are getting better.  I think we get stronger by hard won increments....

it's a process, and there's no shortcuts to serenity.

::shaking head::

Lighter

Twoapenny:

--- Quote from: lighter on June 07, 2013, 11:39:50 AM ---Tupp:

I'm glad to read things are getting better.  I think we get stronger by hard won increments....

it's a process, and there's no shortcuts to serenity.

::shaking head::

Lighter

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Defintely agree.  There's a whole range of emotions to work through but yes, the old habits lessen, new ones get stronger and there's less and less space for silly people :)

SilverLining:
Hi Tupp.  I am having the same experience, which is probably why I haven't been posting much in recent months.  I still think about the FOO situation, but it has become more of a mental consideration and less of an emotional trap.  They are all nuts.  There's nothing I can do about it.  And obsessing over the situation doesn't do me any good.   Acceptance while maintaining distance is key.. 

Twoapenny:

--- Quote from: SilverLining on June 07, 2013, 05:04:52 PM ---Hi Tupp.  I am having the same experience, which is probably why I haven't been posting much in recent months.  I still think about the FOO situation, but it has become more of a mental consideration and less of an emotional trap.  They are all nuts.  There's nothing I can do about it.  And obsessing over the situation doesn't do me any good.   Acceptance while maintaining distance is key.. 

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Hi, Silver!

Yes, I completely agree.  It's as if their tentacles are losing suction :)  The distance and lack of contact have helped (by distance I mean emotional, geographically they're very close).  And being able to be objective and turn situations around - would I do the same?  Do I think this is fair? reasonable? do I trust their opinion?  You know the answers to all of those questions.
So yes, mental consideration rather than emotional trap is a good way to put it.

I'm glad things are levelling out for you, too :) xx

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