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any savvy dogsters here?
Twoapenny:
Hopsie, you sound like a good match. A true and special friend. You deserve that xx
sKePTiKal:
Well, H and I were in a bit of a tizzy over "what's going on" yesterday... but it ended hopefully. I don't want to jinx it by saying anything, until after the court date on the 12th. All parties seem focused on the same result right now and my fingers are crossed.
The eval of the oldest boy came back, validating A's claim all along - that the oldest boy is a high functioning Aspie and that his biggest challenge is in decision making. (That explains a lot.) But he does NOT need to be in LD classes at school, and A agrees with my idea, that the LD approach may actually be detrimental to his progress. If the kids go back home, they'll be back in their great school again, and A can work with those folks to get this child some tutoring to get him up to grade level, before he goes on to high school. In fact, she was feeling me out about backing her up in case she has to pay for tutoring because she feels so strongly about this helping him. (Huge, huge change in her attitude; before she was insisting that nothing could be done.)
This will be a monitored situation and family counseling will also be required, if the kids are returned. And I'm well aware that there needs to be on-going interaction, support, and openness between the 3 of us: H, A & I going forward -- that we're not to "normal" relationship yet. Trust levels are still on the low side; A is starting to work through the heavy emotional work which makes communication/relationship awkward; and H & I, because of A's previous level of distrust and lying to us... can very, very easily project our fears of the worst onto the situation, making it even worse. Things are proceeding slowly and I'm even more convinced these days, that everything happens for a reason -- or that we can assign meaning to most things that happen. :D Not sure which it is - or that it matters.
OH... and H is trying on a new career: movie special effects! She says it uses a lot of stuff that's in her brain, like math, science, engineering, physics... that she hasn't used in a long, long time... combined with artistic creativity. She is so excited about it, and it's contagious. :D
Hopalong:
That's wonderful, PR...so much hope for all of you.
How about the younger boy's eval? Any insights there?
So glad to know the older boy may get a chance at a reset.
Special effects sound like a far cry from nursing, but a great
fit for an imaginative, somewhat intense person...good outlet
for those parts of her.
love,
Hops
lighter:
Hey, Hops.
I think it's H that's considering the movie effects.... not A, sKep?
About the update..... I got chills reading it.
Still have them.
It appears things are heading in the best possible direction for everyone involved, and they unfolded in their own time, in their own way after all.
Whatever it is you're doing, I think you should keep doing it, ((((sKep and family.))))
Hops: Glad your pooch had a good experience out in public..... seems promising. Things can only get better as you two make new friends, and begin socializing with dogs and people on a regular basis. Reminds me of playdates and children.....
you want your child/dog playdating with peers who have excellent social skills so they learn good ones, right? Being around other calm, social, relaxed animals, and their owners, might be just what you guys need to transition into a comfortable routine where you don't have to worry much? Be mindful. Maybe start slow. Good luck: )
Lighter
Meh:
:D >>>>> http://cdn.trendhunterstatic.com/thumbs/chia-pet-animal-costume.jpeg
I know, I know, it's almost totally off subject. Was trying to find a photo of a mature chia plant which these trendy-nutritional chia seeds come from. Found this instead.
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