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Hopalong:
Tupp, I'll go out on a limb here, just first intuition w/o much analyzing:
What if your sudden recoil from this insightful, intuitive, smart therapist--and looking at her with fear--
isn't about who SHE is, but about your fear of the hard feelings/hard work risk you'll be taking if you
talk about him?
I just got a flash-thought that perhaps you go a little microscopic looking for what's wrong in people
and in relationships...because that keeps you safe.
If you can find something fatally wrong with her as a therapist, then you're justified in giving up,
moving on...and not risking going deeper.
Deeper. (Where the real healing is.)
If you can, based on all I know from reading this thread....my loving advice would be: ride through
this. Risk trusting her.
See what happens.
(The worst that can happen---a la Victor Frankl--is that you'll be disappointed, and feel vulnerability.
You already know what disappointment feels like, and you have experienced surviving vulnerability.)
What do you think? I'm sorry you're feeling triggered.
love
Hops
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on November 27, 2013, 11:56:02 AM ---Tupp, I'll go out on a limb here, just first intuition w/o much analyzing:
What if your sudden recoil from this insightful, intuitive, smart therapist--and looking at her with fear--
isn't about who SHE is, but about your fear of the hard feelings/hard work risk you'll be taking if you
talk about him?
I just got a flash-thought that perhaps you go a little microscopic looking for what's wrong in people
and in relationships...because that keeps you safe.
If you can find something fatally wrong with her as a therapist, then you're justified in giving up,
moving on...and not risking going deeper.
Deeper. (Where the real healing is.)
If you can, based on all I know from reading this thread....my loving advice would be: ride through
this. Risk trusting her.
See what happens.
(The worst that can happen---a la Victor Frankl--is that you'll be disappointed, and feel vulnerability.
You already know what disappointment feels like, and you have experienced surviving vulnerability.)
What do you think? I'm sorry you're feeling triggered.
love
Hops
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It might be that, I had thought about it myself. But she said a couple of things that made me feel like she didn't believe me and I can't cope with that. I'm not going to stop altogether, just find someone else. I contacted one who was too expensive and have found another that's affordable so I'm just waiting for them to call me back and hopefully I can set up an appointment with them quite soon.
BonesMS:
(((((((Tupp)))))))))))))))
This may sound like a crazy question.....when she acted as if she didn't believe you, did you challenge or confront her? I know that is risky. Just a thought or two.
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: BonesMS on November 28, 2013, 03:57:20 AM ---(((((((Tupp)))))))))))))))
This may sound like a crazy question.....when she acted as if she didn't believe you, did you challenge or confront her? I know that is risky. Just a thought or two.
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Yep. I was telling her about the police and social services investigations and the people involved (professionals) who lied, either to me or about me. I was going through some examples and she said (of the police woman) "I think she was naïve, I don't think she was lying". I gave her a couple more examples and she still said the same thing. I've got written proof. I've got records that were altered, reports that were changed as they were handed around different people, discrepancies in statements made by professionals - I've got proof that professionals involved lied. My complaints were upheld, there were agencies that admitted that their records weren't factually accurate, one social worker admitted to me on the phone that she'd made something up. I felt like I was talking to my mum, she was refusing to see what was in front of her. I didn't have the actual paperwork with me but I feel like I shouldn't need to prove to a therapist that I'm telling the truth. I've never lied about this stuff. I wouldn't say someone was lying without proof, the reasons the hassles against me stopped were because I proved how many people involved had lied. It's left me feeling so ill and uneasy.
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Twoapenny on November 28, 2013, 07:45:34 AM ---
--- Quote from: BonesMS on November 28, 2013, 03:57:20 AM ---(((((((Tupp)))))))))))))))
This may sound like a crazy question.....when she acted as if she didn't believe you, did you challenge or confront her? I know that is risky. Just a thought or two.
--- End quote ---
Yep. I was telling her about the police and social services investigations and the people involved (professionals) who lied, either to me or about me. I was going through some examples and she said (of the police woman) "I think she was naïve, I don't think she was lying". I gave her a couple more examples and she still said the same thing. I've got written proof. I've got records that were altered, reports that were changed as they were handed around different people, discrepancies in statements made by professionals - I've got proof that professionals involved lied. My complaints were upheld, there were agencies that admitted that their records weren't factually accurate, one social worker admitted to me on the phone that she'd made something up. I felt like I was talking to my mum, she was refusing to see what was in front of her. I didn't have the actual paperwork with me but I feel like I shouldn't need to prove to a therapist that I'm telling the truth. I've never lied about this stuff. I wouldn't say someone was lying without proof, the reasons the hassles against me stopped were because I proved how many people involved had lied. It's left me feeling so ill and uneasy.
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I see what you mean. I've also encountered therapists, on my side of the Pond, that simply cannot wrap their brains around the fact that this kind of stuff actually happens.
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