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lighter:
Awww, Tupp:
Wouldn't it be nice if the people, who were tricked into helping the nutters do us harm, did what they could to document that harm, file reports, maybe undo that harm, and at least be upset they were used to harm a child?
I sometimes feel the apathy is as toxic as the intentional harm done by the pd's.
Lighter
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on December 24, 2013, 03:36:32 PM ---Awww, Tupp:
Wouldn't it be nice if the people, who were tricked into helping the nutters do us harm, did what they could to document that harm, file reports, maybe undo that harm, and at least be upset they were used to harm a child?
I sometimes feel the apathy is as toxic as the intentional harm done by the pd's.
Lighter
--- End quote ---
Aint that the truth!
I have had my 'I will regain control of the situation' over night. There is a mountain of paperwork that I just find impossible to get to the top off. So I am making it a priority - two hours a day and one whole day a week (Fridays) to get on with it and get it dealt with, one way or another. I need to be in control of this - genuinely, not in a 'I'm scared of probability' way but because she is messing with my boy and I'm not standing for it. I'm doing this for him - him, him, him.
I've scooted about online and I reckon I've got enough now to get an injunction taken out on my son's behalf. I didn't have enough for me and I was in a catch 22 - as her harassment wasn't physical I'd have to cite mental health problems as the reason to get it stopped. As she was falsely claiming I had mental health problems that made me harm my child I was in a situation that I just couldn't resolve in that way. But based on what I read last night I think I have enough now to prove that she is harming him and get an order that prevents her from doing this to him anymore. So that is my task for the new year.
And looking forward - and based on what you say, Lighter, about people being more willing to help after they've been duped instead of rushing to cover their arses - I'm wondering about some sort of campaign to raise awareness, support groups (I can't be the only person this has happened to), changes in legislation - something useful and meaningful to make all this heartache and hassle have some sort of meaning and help others in the future? A long way off but something I want to think about once I've dealt with the personal stuff. Make something good out of her.
And as a last point, I am seriously at the stage of contacting her GP once I've got all the evidence together. I don't think anyone can force her to deal with what she's doing but her behaviour is seriously abnormal and I think a medical person should have a proper statement regarding it (it's not something she'll have been telling anyone, obviously). So I think someone outside of the situation in her camp, as it were, ought to know what's been going on. I might not be the only person she's doing this to???????
lighter:
Glad you're rising to the challenge and feeling in control again, Tupp:
I understand, and am looking for ways to limit similar harm myself right now...... trying to blaze new paths, bc there aren't any, are there?
The process brings about longing to raise awareness,, as you say, and perhaps help protect innocent others down the road.
Maybe some small contribution to that cause will come about from all we're navigating?
Happy New Year, Mama Tupp.
Lighter
Twoapenny:
Happy New Year to you, too, Lighter :)
I am finding it tough going. A couple of hours brings on headaches, tension, sickness sometimes and then the emotions as well - dead flat, furiously angry, terrified, deeply sad. An overwhelming desire for junk food! But I'm just picking away, doing what I can. I have a two page list on the wall! I'm slowly ticking things off. It does feel that this year will be the year for closure, one way or another :) I hope it can be the same for you.
Hopalong:
I love the idea of this being the last year of the conflicts, Tupp and Lighter.
You both deserve to at some point leave the past behind, and move into new life.
In the meanwhile, hope the work you're doing to close those doors strengthens and calms you.
xxoo
Hops
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