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2014 and my update
lighter:
OK....
update continued....
my oldest child is an honor student, and my youngest is doing fine in school this year.
We're still doing the cyber academy charter program, which has been interesting.
There are some things I absolutely love about it, and perhaps would love if I were more organized, and multi tasked better than I do, but hey....
it's a journey I'm glad I didn't miss.
We travel a bit, and keep in touch with friends from our previous community.
Our old private school welcomes us back to participate for however long we land, and it's been a blessing and a joy.
Depending on how mom's feeling, we'll take a trip to the beach soon.
Maybe go to the Museum in Toronto.
Lighter
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on January 27, 2014, 11:20:05 PM ---OK....
update continued....
my oldest child is an honor student, and my youngest is doing fine in school this year.
We're still doing the cyber academy charter program, which has been interesting.
There are some things I absolutely love about it, and perhaps would love if I were more organized, and multi tasked better than I do, but hey....
it's a journey I'm glad I didn't miss.
We travel a bit, and keep in touch with friends from our previous community.
Our old private school welcomes us back to participate for however long we land, and it's been a blessing and a joy.
Depending on how mom's feeling, we'll take a trip to the beach soon.
Maybe go to the Museum in Toronto.
Lighter
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That all sounds so nice, Lighter, beach days are the best days for us, are museums free in the States? A lot are in the UK, it's a lovely way to spend a rainy afternoon :) Great that the kids are getting on so well :)
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on January 27, 2014, 01:43:10 PM ---Hi Tupp:
My Mom is brave.... I'm so proud of her. So not ready to lose her.
Her headaches are better today... usually last 3 days. Appetite OK. Tumor markers up 100 points, so scan in the works. She's just keeps plugging along without catasrophizing.
The legal stuff will end. I've done everything I can to bring that about. It is what it is, and I agree....
my attorney's response was spot on. I don't think she could have done any better.
I'll call Judge's office and see what timeline is for appeal is. The laws pretty cut and dry. It's the attorneys interpreting the laws that cause all this confusion and chaos, IME.
I'm curious, how are you getting on with your prodigal sister? Did she suffer abuse from your sf too?
Lighter
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Hi Lighter,
We've not spoken since. I kept a healthy distance. If/when she is at a point that she wants to disengage I am happy for her to be in contact with us and am happy to meet, talk and see how things go. But I was careful not to leap in and rescue her (go me!). We arranged to meet twice and she cancelled both times so I've left the ball in her court. I remember in those early days that I seesawed back and forth where mum is concerned. She's not an easy woman to get away from and leaving your mum, however toxic she may be, isn't an easy decision to make.
So she knows where I am but I am getting on with my life. Roughly half way through paperwork now, it has slowed down as I've been journaling as I do it and that's taking longer than the paperwork is but I feel like I need it and I have found I feel I can let go of outcomes more easily now. Perhaps it's because my boundaries are better now; however things turn out I will be okay because I look after myself better these days and I can cope with it?
Whether SF abused her as well I don't know; she was certainly exposed to inappropriate behaviour in the same way that I was. There may be more but again, it's her stuff to deal with if and when she's ready. I'm getting the hang of this boundary stuff now! :)
Hopalong:
Pink-light tsunamis, with love, lifting your Mom, Lighter.
She is so important to you, and lucky to be so valued.
Many, many years more for all of you...peace and delights.
Tupp, you are so wise, adult and non-triggered with your sister.
And fair. I like it that you have boundaries and don't "pot-stir."
I'm totally impressed.
Hops
lighter:
Tupp... I sat there, eyes wide, reading your last post.
:shock:
Wow, you sound so......
well.
You sound so healthy.
And grounded.
And appropriate.
:shock:
COOL!
Lighter: )
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