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sKePTiKal:
Oh, you do know that this won't change until there really are personnel changes at the top, right? Or until you leave.

And that people, being people of all sorts... you're bound to run into this even somewhere else. It's just par for the course, I think. Some of the gentler means of social interaction seem to be fading away in this era. Things that made it possible to function around dysfunctional people, in spite of them.

The only thing I have to suggest, is to give yourself a pep talk - and remind yourself that you've already lived through this kind of crap and worse and survived it intact. (Maybe a little disheveled and grossed out - but intact!) I truly think that these workplace bullies are terribly naive: it worked one time on one person, therefore this technique/strategy will always work on everyone who threatens my self-ordained and self-proclaimed territory or power threshold.

They honestly believe that you're not able to see right through them and what their motives really are. Like a toddler who plays at being invisible. Pathetic.

Get up in the morning and put on your armor - every morning - so that when you recognize that the monkey is throwing feces again - you can shrug it off, with "OK, and I'm protected by this suit I can take off and it'll wash right off". Remember Alfred? Batman's butler? He'll clean your suit for you, so it's bright and shiny in the morning again...

Yeah, it's silly. Works for me.

sea storm:
Very thoughtful comment. This whole thing is something that should not happen. Like beating bunnies or kicking the oog. Those you can see and it is clear. This is like wading through oatmeal every day at work. With the occasional thunderbolt that nearly knocks you out.  It is so wrong. It is such an uphill batter.

You survival stategy is a good idea.  You mean you put your armor on and you forge ahead. Maybe you are in the upper echelons of the pecking order???? This having good boundaries not letting others diminish you is a very good art to have. Like having the handle on the inside so you can keep out rats etc.

Hops you make some very astute comments on older people being marginalized and women being marginalized. Being excluded, overlooked, minimized etc. is destructive.  If you take it on. This is really hard to avoid under the circumstances.

I like to watch Inspector Morse because he abhors the way leadership is defined in his job. He is constantly in trouble and undervalued. He exaberates his superiors.  Somehow he doesn't care. He is such a psychological warrior. He balances a lot of this work hell
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Meh:
Hops,

God, this is insane.

What if you just asked for an action plan in writing and decline the therapy or guided visualizations, can't you just say it's starting to violate your religious beliefs or something..

Like, my church doesn't believe in visualizations outside of the church and I am more comfortable with therapeutic techniques being administered by a licensed mental health professional so can you just put the action plan in a document as it pertains to communication styles etc.

Or request that if that dude has an issue to address it to the manager instead of to the whole office??  

Nah, Don't leave Hops. Just kick P man in the nards.

sea storm:
That's a good idea.  It violates your religious beliefs. How creepy to force someone to be vulnerable. YOU WILL let me intrude into your deepest recesses and soft places..... definately creepy.  A rself righteous power trip.

I hope you are ok. This  stuff triggers old wounds for sure. There must be a way to step aside and let the bs go by. Garbanzo is right on when she says kick im in the nards.  At least this could be a good visualization.
When I was being hung up to dry I would try to be like the Lamas in the chinese prison.  They meditated and refused to give their bliss to the sadistic guards. This is insidious offender behaiour you are experiencing. Try not to catch the projections, they can really knock you on your butt.
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You are a perfectly adequate person and people like you../

sKePTiKal:

--- Quote ---Nah, Don't leave Hops. Just kick P man in the nards.
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This is also an effective technique. Time & place being a critical element. Any old unexpected and out of character self-defense or expression of "I've had quite enough out of you" can work. Last resort, for me though.

Unless I'm wearing stilettos.

LOL... I guess you could always sneak up behind him and give him a wedgie instead!!

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