Father with cancer and narcissistic mother

[Lucky]

Thank you for your support Bones and Hopalong. I am still grieving very much, for the suffering and deterioration my dad had to suffer and because I miss him very much.

[Lucky]

My mother asked me why I am still having problems sleeping. I am still mourning my dad but my mother tells me I do not have to worry about him any more. I am getting the impression that she feels great. She also told me that my dad and her had thought that I did not pay them enough attention when my dad's illness was not so grave yet. I can not believe my dad really said or thought that.

[BonesMS]

My mother asked me why I am still having problems sleeping. I am still mourning my dad but my mother tells me I do not have to worry about him any more. I am getting the impression that she feels great. She also told me that my dad and her had thought that I did not pay them enough attention when my dad's illness was not so grave yet. I can not believe my dad really said or thought that.

I doubt very much that your Dad really said or thought that.  This sounds like typical Narcissistic crap coming out of the mouth of the birth-unit.  GRRRRRR!!!!!!! 

[Hopalong]

Hi Lucky,
I hate it that your insensitive mother (kind of a guilt-tripping bully)
adds to your pain.

Have you thought of attending a bereavement support group?
They're free, most hospice organizations have them ongoing,
and I've heard they can be a HUGE comfort and help.

xo
Hops

[Lucky]

Thank you very much Bones and Hopalong. Narcissists always like to trample on you while you are down. When they smell blood they go in for the kill.
My employee is going to pay for a psychologist for me to go to because I talked to the health and safety person and said I am not feeling very well. My appointment for the intake is on the 30th of April.