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Still need to work through early trauma
Ales2:
I very much liked what your T said about the emotional override very true and very helpful. Its all about the override to stay consistent.
Gaining Strength:
I love this conversation.
I'm with you two - emotional override is THE KEY!!!
Gaining Strength:
Today I am getting some relief from the omnipresent sense of shame and foreboding. It comes when I am most present to the physical sensations and name them and acknowledge their source. This is welcomed. The first two weeks of tuning in exacerbated the physical and psychic pain.
Now, I can se great progress will be made when I shift from the fear and/or expectation of that wretched feeling coming on. That may take days or weeks or longer but I think it will come sooner rather than later.
When this stage of healing started this summer I was wracked with memories of my childhood, college and early adult friends, people in my wedding etc who are now lost to me. The deluge of memories invaded my dreams every night for weeks. It was a lengthy period of grieving and opening.
But it did not destroy me. I am expecting something similar through this process. The pain is there and it is great but it is more tolerable than previously.
Gaining Strength:
I'm dealing with a big one and I am going to win. Facing the demons now. I know they are not me. They did not come from me and must leave. I am not only going to survive, I am going to flourish.
Ales2:
Whoa....this emotional override is a very powerful tool. I took a shower and could not stop thinking about it and it really empowered me to make much better choices...
I was thinking the following:
1. Im feeling:
jealous of Kristi because she got a promotion
angry at Mom for interfering, offering bad advice yet again
overeating dinner w/ wine, again...
distracting myself by watching TV (again)
2. I choose to emotionally override these feelings
3. Successful people consistently override these feelings:
jealousy by congratulating Kristi, working harder on my own projects
anger by asserting boundaries, not sharing Kristi promotion w/ her
overeating by picking a low cal meal with water (instead of wine)
avoid the distraction by not sitting on the couch after dinner, and going direct to my reading, housework or other chores
4. I am a successful person....(because I consistently override BLANK)
well, hello, this is what I did many years back when I was DOING VERY WELL. I did it automatically. I was always positive, I was kind, I rarely let anything get me down, or get me stuck in negativity, procrastination or overeating. Im going to try to use this tool more this week and see how it works for me... Ive been stuck in some bad habits for a very long time...and I honestly believe that habits shape our ability to hope. If you have good habits, it makes hope to meeting a goal a shorter distance...
Thanks Hops for sharing this. Its one of the best discoveries on this board for me...
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