Apoeal Court ruling

[Hopalong]

Hmm. I hadn't consciously parsed what I meant ...
but I guess I am thinking they have malignant intentions
toward YOU, which they have expresssed or would express in how
they relate to the children?

Meaning--I was figuring they do love their grandchildren.

That make sense?
Forgive my over-interpreting if I'm off base.

Hops

[lighter]

Tupp:

I'm sad to hear there aren't any programs available for your son right now, but glad to read he's thriving at home with you. You're such a devoted mother, Tupp.  He's a lucky little man.

Hops:  I knew what you meant, and your thoughts make more sense than the facts involved.  Do the IL's want to do trauma to my children, as a priority?  I'm sure they don't...... do they see the children as extensions of me? 

I have no idea, and nothing to gain if it could be discerned.

Trauma to children is trauma, whether it's an unintended consequence, or their master plan.
Lighter

[Hopalong]

I think you're right. I get it.
The trauma of being stirred up or manipulated by them not managing their toxic feelings would negate the gift of their loving-grandparent feelings.
It's all mixed together.

I hear you, mama tiger.

love
Hops

[lighter]

Hi Hops:
They aren't really the loving grandparent sort.

It was more a matter of giving up hope they would be, rather than giving up the loving relationship we wished my children had with them.
Lighter

[Twoapenny]

Tupp:

I'm sad to hear there aren't any programs available for your son right now, but glad to read he's thriving at home with you. You're such a devoted mother, Tupp.  He's a lucky little man.

There's very little in the UK that you don't have to pay for yourself; if you've got plenty of money then there's loads to do!  I am cherry picking the bits we need the most, paying for what I can, doing my best on the other stuff and trying to focus on today and not keep worrying endlessly into the future.  I find that hard; I've had to protect both of us for so long that it feels like a natural thing to keep building defences but I really want to change my mind set so that my default mode is that most people are okay and not too many are bad.  It's a big shift but I'm working on it.

I hope things are levelling out now for all of you and that you get some peace now, it's amazing how different life is when you're not fighting fires

[lighter]

Well Tupp......

you're aware, and building new skills with a clear vision of what you want for yourself.

It's going to be a better year, I just know it; )

Riht now I'm pulling up my sleeves, and getting ready to dive back into legal docs.

 Again.

 It's me filing the suits at this point, so I'm looking forward to righting our lives in a way that removes the pd's from our lives.... finally.

Yes.

Here's to clarity, serenity, and finding our passions, Tupp.

More joy, please; )

Love, Lighter

[sea storm]

Such courage and determination. Keep going and don't give up.


It will end.

Blessings to you

Sea

[lighter]

Such courage and determination. Keep going and don't give up.


It will end.

Blessings to you

Sea

Thank you, Sea:  )
Lighter