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Hopalong:
I had a first date tonight too...about a 5 I'd say.
Older than I'd expected (I'm in shock about old men, as
my last relationship, nearly a decade back, was with a
man 12 years younger). So I'm shocked that these
older gents appear. But I realize it's the way of
things when you're a woman in her 60s w/white hair.

He was very interesting though, enough to see again.

hugs
Hops

BonesMS:

--- Quote from: Twoapenny on February 13, 2015, 06:57:00 PM ---Thank you, everybody, and Bones, I'm really glad that you slept a bit better after that Reiki!

Well, the date was awful :)  But..........I went, and that was the main thing, I got out of the house, out of my rut and did it.  I really noticed as I was getting ready all the negative voices about my appearance so I pushed them away, made myself look the best I could and got on with it.  He was physically not my type at all, we ran out of things to talk about quite quickly and I made my excuses and left.  It was pouring with rain and the wiper on the driver's side broke on the way home so I had to drive with my head on the passenger side so I could see.  The best part of the whole night was the chat with the babysitter when I got home and my boy reading me a story he'd written while I was out :)  So yes, as dates go it was a 1 out of 10 but I am glad I got myself over the hump and got back out there in the real world again.  It wasn't great but the world didn't come to an end so I feel a bit more confident that I can cope with things as they happen :)

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Thanks, (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Tupp))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))!  And you go, girl!!!!   :D

Gaining Strength:
Good for you Twoapenny's.  Even if the guy was a dud.  You got out and received a wonderful story in return.

Twoapenny:

--- Quote from: Hopalong on February 13, 2015, 10:04:04 PM ---I had a first date tonight too...about a 5 I'd say.
Older than I'd expected (I'm in shock about old men, as
my last relationship, nearly a decade back, was with a
man 12 years younger). So I'm shocked that these
older gents appear. But I realize it's the way of
things when you're a woman in her 60s w/white hair.

He was very interesting though, enough to see again.

hugs
Hops

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The ageing thing is difficult, isn't it Hops, I see blokes and think no, he's too old and then realise he's the same age as me!  I think it's harder for men to hide age as well, women can dye their hair and use make up and clothes whereas men can't hide their bald patches and detract attention from their waistlines with a pretty necklace.  A 5 out of 10 is not bad, though, for a first date and it's great that you are going to meet with him again :)

Twoapenny:
Thanks, Bones and GS :)  I was thinking about it all today and what I noticed is different about me is that I wasn't critiquing the whole thing from the point of wondering what I had done wrong - it was just one of those things, no chemistry, nothing in common but it meant I was out and I think it's given me a really good boost even though it wasn't a good night if you see what I mean?  Just need to build up to going out on a date that I actually enjoy now :)

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