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Meh:
**Hi two penny. disregard the asterisks my keyboard is broken.
*I've also not been on the board much though *I think its good to come here and just write stuff out, it helps me personally to keep things into some sort of perspective.
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on May 20, 2015, 02:47:49 PM ---Hi Tupp,
This is really positive...both for you and for your son.
Kudos on disciplining yourself about online rabbitholes.
I get it (worst offender, here). Even positive places can
become negatives if usage gets out of balance.
I do know that when I am in crisis, this is such a blessing,
to know I can post here.
But it's wonderful to hear people's happy news too and
especially about their dreams and new plans.
Don't want to feed the posting-demon for you, but next
time you're in the mood, I'd love to know about those
countries. Such an exciting idea.
hugs
Hops
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Hi Hops, yes, it's exactly that, online has saved me so many times in so many situations but there is a line, isn't there, between being a help and a hindrance. And I do feel I'd got to the point where my online world had made me comfy enough not to seek out real life situations; online is easier to control, you can think about what you say before you say it, avoid reading things that might upset you and so on. It's great in some situations but I got to the point where I realised I couldn't remember the last time someone had touched me, you know, a proper, big bear hug. And that's where online doesn't really do it so I felt I needed to try and get back to that again. It's not without its perils, though, there are some proper idiots out there! But it's going okay :)
Will def keep you updated on countries! Current contenders are Denmark, Sweden and Portugal, primarily because I already know people living there so have (a) a point of contact and (b) already know a bit about them and how they are for foreigners invading their shores! But obviously lots of research needed, no rush, just taking things slowly and what's nice as he's getting older is that the grip my mum has had (with her child protection allegations) is loosening because he'll soon be at the point where she can't ring anyone to report me for things I haven't done! So obviously that's helping as well :)
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on May 21, 2015, 09:11:16 PM ---Tupp:
I want to hear about the other Countries too. It sounds like you have your eye on the future, and all doors are open. YES!
As for me..... I'm closing on a home soon. I found a lovely Amazon bonfire grotto, on the edge of a primordial forest.... and there happens to be a lovely little storage laden house I'm planning to turn into sacred space for me and my children. I don't know how it happened, but once the stars aligned..... it happened fast, and I can't wait to see what every day brings. I wish, stand back, then POOF!.....it happens.
::reminding self ..... be careful what one wishes for::..
I'm happily thinking about what I'll do when the kiddos are older..... something I'm passionate about, just not sure which passion to choose. Probably the most uplifting one, but it's going to be a hard choice.
It's all good here, Tupp. Hug your little man for me. Everything is going to be OK: )
Lighter
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Wow, Lighter, that soon to be home sounds incredible, what an amazing place for you and your girls, I think you can appreciate something like that so much more after everything you've been through and all the tough times. Sounds incredible and I look forward to hearing more about it :)
Doors do feel open. I feel like there are possibilities and I haven't felt like that for a long time. I think the dealing with everything - my son with just his day to day needs and all the health problems, my mum - a saga in her own right! - all the emotional stuff that I buried for years and then pulled out to sift through, plus just figuring out who I am and what I want/need and so on - it's all taken up so much energy that there hasn't really been a lot of space for 'what if'. But that is changing now, things are easier and yes, being able to look to the future and think about what I want rather than just getting through the day is amazing and I am trying my best to enjoy things as they come up and to find the balance between sensible planning and needing to be in control :) All these tightropes we have to master and get the hang of. But getting there, things are better than they've been for a long time. I just don't feel like I'm fighting constantly any more.
Anyway, keep us updated on your new place and how it's all going. Would love to hear more :)
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Garbanzo on May 21, 2015, 09:20:09 PM ---**Hi two penny. disregard the asterisks my keyboard is broken.
*I've also not been on the board much though *I think its good to come here and just write stuff out, it helps me personally to keep things into some sort of perspective.
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Hi G, yep, it's definitely a good place to get things out of your head. I find I'm sometimes overly influenced by other's opinions (instead of taking time to figure out how I feel about something rather than what I think) and I do tend to use other people's problems or situations as a distraction from my own. So it's all about balance, as everything is, so much balancing to do all the time, I think we should all be in the circus :) The Voiceless and Emotional Circus is in town!
There is a group I'm reading with on Facebook at the moment who have an idea about a Travelling Village, similar to a circus in the sense that they move from town to tow, but instead of a performance it's more like a travelling workshop, teaching people how to make their own pots, plates, soap etc, storytelling, selling plants and so on. It's a lovely idea and one that really appeals to me so I'm enjoying reading up on things and having another 'what if' in my dream collection at the minute :)
Hopalong:
This moved me and helped me Tupp!
--- Quote ---online is easier to control, you can think about what you say before you say it, avoid reading things that might upset you and so on. It's great in some situations but I got to the point where I realised I couldn't remember the last time someone had touched me, you know, a proper, big bear hug.
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Thank you. (You just never know, how one person's insights just jump into another person's life!)
Big hugs,
Hops
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