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Gabben:
"psychology of some is deeply flawed and selfish."  Agreed.

Ales2,

Thank you. I was feeling alone in my frustration with the entitlement generation. I am 47 too. Your post has some many good points to ponder, such as raising kids with too much permissiveness not enough challenge.

I think people's values are deeply skewed. People love comfort and materialism above virtue. I know I was leaning in this direction in my early twenties, but I was shaken up by painful realities I created out of my own selfishness. I had to change my ways, slowly.

I wonder what the world is going to look like when Gen Y are CEO's and political leaders? Or perhaps they will stay in their cozy tech jobs working 25 plus hours a week and snow boarding and mountain biking the rest of the time? I sound sarcastic I know, but I am being serious.

The Gen Y's are lost. They seem to be searching for their sense of identity in careers, fame and money, not unlike past generations. But at least past generations grew-up with a sense of spiritual or religious values.

sea storm:
why can't Ns handle a mirror put up for them......


I think that means feedback and assertive behaviour.  I don't know WHY Ns can't handle feedback but it is not in their crazy rulebook.  That would require give and take and compassion and a genuine desire to know you. None of which is part of an N. It probably did you good to let off steam and get honest with the N roomate. But there would be no movement in the relationship growth department.

As for this generation.... it is hard to speak to such a broad topic.  Lots of this generation really are great, caring, well rounded and responsible people. Lots aren't. It is so important to spot an N early before one is charmed and disarmed by their amazing manipulations. I wonder what the roomate did to enchant you. Was she almost too good to be true?  Good lesson taught with minimum damage.

I don't think people have disappeared so much as grown out of the pain from the initial  trauma that brought them here. I know I am not in the middle of a psychological collapse anymore. I find it interesting to see where people are now. When someone gets a problem there is usually a great fluttering of wings around here and a protective and wise cloak is produced by a few strong voices. There is a whole field there ie. after a Narcissist and therapy where does one go. There is always the existential crunch of the times we live in so it is no nirvana.

I sort of moved on and didn't have anything to say for ages. I got really busy starting my store and moving house. When things got tough I was so thankful that good people were still here. It is an amazing group of people. It was a fantastic undertaking to create this site and mountains got moved. I sometimes think that there is a goldmine of beautiful and deep conversation here and I hope someone keeps it. This whole way of relating seems to be going the way of the dodo.

Not too earth shaking. More like musings.

Sea

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