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Hopalong:
For the last 2 years Nboss has had a new handmaiden. A hyper-religious honey-coated person who has her sincere side, but who behaves as though authority and power are what motivate her most.
Very very sugar-coated, gushing, etc. But from the moment she walked in (she was formerly ProdMan's right hand, for anyone who remembers the saga of his hatred for me), she treated me as a threat.

And she has won. Long story short, my requests for quiet (she shrieks with laughter all day and creates a whole lot of noise, and I have a very hard time--worse than colleagues--concentrating) have irritated her to the point that she stirred the pot with Nboss until it all erupted. He wrote an absolutely vicious, classic, beat-down "writeup" of me for my "not contributing positivity to the company culture" and has had it put in my file.

New Young Man (few years, soon to be CEO) is an ally so I don't think I'm going to lose my job. But it was just remarkably vicious. Attacking my personality, character, very very personal language. Similar to things he's done in the past, and clearly the culmination of all of these years of toxicity.

I can't go anywhere, need to work at least 5 more years. So I'm going to do my best to turn into a Gray Rock and wait him out (he does plan to retire and turn the reins over, and I know the new CEO values me, as does my closest work colleague). But if Nboss on his own was toxic, in combination with ... what shall I call her ... The Saint, the dynamics are ghastly. The office staff seem pretty okay, and new CEO (to be soon) is okay.

Oh. Forgot to say a key point. Nboss wedged his own 23 y/o son into our dept., who has no experience or talent for his tasks, and ... surprise ... turns out his son is vicious too. He complained nonstop to his father about my editing of his work (which tobeCEO described as "incoherent") -- and that's what set Nboss after me. How DARE I.

Oy.

Hops

Twoapenny:
Oh Hops :(  I had forgotten all about your troubles at work as it's been such a long time since you mentioned them and they sound just as ghastly now as they did then.  I am so sorry to read that you are trapped with this buffoon, his henchlady and his offspring.  Although glad that your 'in the future' CEO seems to be a good egg.

How long until this hideous one retires?  Will he be taking the noisy lady with him?  I've no practical advice to offer, I'm afraid, although you sound as if you've sorted it in your mind anyway, but wanted to say I'm sorry you're having to deal with this again and hoping it all eases off a bit soon xx

lighter:
Oh, Hoppy....

so sorry, but it didn't read as badly as I thought it might.

You didn't" lose", you just got smacked around.

Again.

Nboss is an ass, and the people who aren't disordered see that, and they see the Saint and you for what you are.

It's going to be OK. 

::praying Nboss retires soon,  and work life gets better quick::

Lighter

::sending sour mean boppies to NBoss' son::

Dr. Richard Grossman:
Hi Hops,

It has always been clear on this Board that you are one of the most thoughtful, caring people on the planet.   So it is with great pain that I read how you are being treated.   But we know that people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are blinded by their own need to self-inflate and put others down in order to "stand out" in comparison—so they cannot distinguish the good (wonderful in your case) from the bad.  And as a result, they end up doing incredible harm to others.  Take care and know that I am thinking of you.

Richard

Meh:
I agree with the Dr. you are thoughtful Hops.

That sucks. People are Assholes.

Can you do over the ear noise canceling headphones?   Monoprice Hi-Fi DJ Style Acoustic Pro Studio Headphones or something... if you bedazzle it then its art or a fashion statement. Just kidding.  Sorry :(  I hate trauma at work.

https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/a8/0a/3a/a80a3ad72d57e9b2f22c697f1c97dd84.jpg

Also practice that facial expression the model is making too. Sort of joking but idk what else can a person do besides making sure their own work space in conducive to work production.

One of my co-workers lost his job I guess, he sat down two seats from me. He was WAY better at salesmanship than I am. I think the only reason I haven't lost my job is because I show up for work and he had too many days he couldn't come to work due to family stuff. Though I would have thought that they would try to work with him, give him unpaid days off or something.

I have nothing more to say other than that sucks, people are assholes and employers are stupid.  :)  I wish I could say something better but you know what I mean.

Oh and also unfair and arbitrary, I would describe workplaces this way.

F-Word-ERS    etc.

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