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Hopalong:
Heck, yeah.
That's HEALING anger.
Weather it, and serenity follows.
So wish I could see the Magical Camper Van!
Big hugs,
Hops
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on February 04, 2016, 05:39:39 PM ---Heck, yeah.
That's HEALING anger.
Weather it, and serenity follows.
So wish I could see the Magical Camper Van!
Big hugs,
Hops
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Ha ha, it's not very magical at the moment, Hops, it's mostly in bits and I keep finding more rust! I still think (hope!) I can sort it and a couple of people I've spoken to still reckon I paid a good price for her but there is more work to do than I envisaged and I don't know what I'm doing so it's a steep learning curve! We're getting there slowly so hopefully she'll be magical soon. The inside is all good, at least, so the current plan for my son's birthday is to take a couple of his friends bowling, then go for lunch and do birthday cake in the camper which will be all decorated in a pirate theme :) Fingers crossed!
It does feel like good anger, which is a funny thing, anger usually makes me feel scared and out of control and ashamed, I realised recently, but this feels like kick arse, Kill Bill stuff. I don't feel like I have to justify it? Usually I feel like I need to have a million reasons to back up the way I feel but this feels different, it's very strange (but in a good way, I think). Hope the job hunting is going okay xx
lighter:
OH OH OH A PIRATE THEME!
So much fun, Tupp.
If you have a chance to get your hands on some fake mustaches have plenty for kids to do eyebrows, mustaches, gotaees etc. Such great photo ops.
Those cheap eye patches and some bandannas are good too.
I bet that party will be one your son remembers happily forever. A PIRATE CAMPER! WITH CAKE!
Ahhh.... the rust can only make it better; )
As for me, funny we were just talking about feelings, bc my oldest dd has a hard time expressing her feelings, and staying hooked into the present. This began when her paternal grandmother began saying harmful things to her when she was in second grade.
"You;re going to have a new mother/father.... your mother is a criminal, a thief, a murderer, you don't have to listen to her.... etc" Just terrible, and for a while she was repeating these things to me, and would be very defiant after visiting with IL's. That's about when visits ended actually.
That's the time period that began black outs, and loss of memories.... she can't remember anything her grandmother said that was negative, for instance. Forgot it very soon after it was said and both children were coming home hysterical after those visits.
The youngest reported it all, and stayed hooked into her feelings, expressing them in a healthy manner. My oldest dd has to figure that piece out now, and she's asking for help with it thank God.
I'm praying for you and your son. Rock the Pirate Van for us.... just love a good pirate party, Tupp: )
Lighter
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on February 05, 2016, 01:43:18 PM ---OH OH OH A PIRATE THEME!
So much fun, Tupp.
If you have a chance to get your hands on some fake mustaches have plenty for kids to do eyebrows, mustaches, gotaees etc. Such great photo ops.
Those cheap eye patches and some bandannas are good too.
I bet that party will be one your son remembers happily forever. A PIRATE CAMPER! WITH CAKE!
Ahhh.... the rust can only make it better; )
As for me, funny we were just talking about feelings, bc my oldest dd has a hard time expressing her feelings, and staying hooked into the present. This began when her paternal grandmother began saying harmful things to her when she was in second grade.
"You;re going to have a new mother/father.... your mother is a criminal, a thief, a murderer, you don't have to listen to her.... etc" Just terrible, and for a while she was repeating these things to me, and would be very defiant after visiting with IL's. That's about when visits ended actually.
That's the time period that began black outs, and loss of memories.... she can't remember anything her grandmother said that was negative, for instance. Forgot it very soon after it was said and both children were coming home hysterical after those visits.
The youngest reported it all, and stayed hooked into her feelings, expressing them in a healthy manner. My oldest dd has to figure that piece out now, and she's asking for help with it thank God.
I'm praying for you and your son. Rock the Pirate Van for us.... just love a good pirate party, Tupp: )
Lighter
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Oh, Lighter, your poor girl, I cannot understand anyone saying that to a child, under any circumstances. Even if a child did have an awful parent (which quite obviously yours don't!) the other adults in their lives should explain things kindly and tactfully. It's such a selfish, nasty thing to do, no regard for the child and how they feel or what sort of effect it might have on them. She has you to help her through this, thank goodness, so I hope she's able to get to a point where it isn't too much of a problem anymore. How dare that woman say those things?! I think there are a lot of people in the world who are lucky they people they harass aren't violent or there would be a lot of bloody noses about.
Yes, I am excited about the pirate camper! I haven't told him about that bit, he just knows we're having cake in the van so I'm going to decorate it before he gets up on the day and I am intending to go very overboard! We're quite into making our own little books about the things we do at the moment so I'm going to do little books up afterwards with pictures of all the fun and give copies to his little friends who are coming. Hopefully there will be cake left for me as well! Might buy two :) It does feel nice to have some good things to focus on for a change.
In other news - have checked finances and I reckon we can still pull off moving next month, assuming the little place I have my eye on comes good. Should know more within the next couple of weeks but at the moment things are generally looking promising all round.
Thinking of you and your d's, Lighter, sending love and good wishes in your direction xx
lighter:
Tupp:
We have lots of support, and good T collaborating with dd, school, and MD so hoping everything has best possible outcome with economy of motion.
Have new lead on Lyme's Disease treatment....... traditional methods so far not working very well. Will see, then move to another approach.
We're on the tail end of 20 IV chelation treatments for heavy metals toxicity in dd, and still working on metabolic syndrome for her. Thank God she tolerates needles, and swallowing supplements with little trouble.
So far the best approach for the over the top inflammation has been supplements and ZERO gluten/sugar/Dairy.... I mean not a piece of fruit-not a blueberry, or a tic tac ZERO SUGAR.
Goodness..... very tough, but it really makes a difference with regard to clearer thinking, and reduction of inflammation. HUGE. I wish we had access to the nutritionist/holistic doc we had the best results with, but she's two States away. Part of the trouble is sorting out what symptoms are caused by the Lyme's and what are aren't. Different in everyone.
Back to the party..... I used to love love love making little books with the kids. I wish I could see pics, Tupp.
Have fun, and make sure you get some cake. ARRRRGH: )
Lighter
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