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Hopalong:
ALL I know.
My D hasn't tweeted for a few weeks.
She's usually pretty active, regularly posting comments about MMA (her obsession).

Two hours ago she posed a pic of her laptop showing a fighter, and her Tweet said,
"Grateful for this to watch while I'm in the hospital. Hope I get home soon."

A slice of the hospital room is visible from the bed, but that's all.

I have no idea what's wrong. A very strange thing happened yesterday...I kept thinking
something was wrong with her because (sorry if this is TMI) my Caesarian scar suddenly
began ichting like crazy (never happened before).

I have written her stepmom (whom she's cut off also but who can see public FB posts)
to ask her to let me know anything she finds out.

In the usual convoluted way, I wonder if she's done this for attention or pity or (in my
magical thinking) to let me know. But I have no idea what to do or whether to do anything.

I think I will do nothing but hold out light and hope for her healing. This would not be
a healthy way to let me know she'd like to hear from me. And, as ever, contacting her
in any way is something she has forbidden. So I will continue to respect that.

I am concerned for her but don't think any panicky behavior on my part will help.

Thanks for any thoughts,
Hops

Hopalong:
One small example of why I love my T...I can email him when something important happens and he always replies. This time it happened to be immediate. I wrote asking him if he thought I should do anything...(and if my stopping paying her cell phone might have triggered a crisis, a stretch but it had occurred to me) and he helped me get back to reality thinking:

"Sorry to hear about this — I assume someone at the hospital would ask her at some point if there is someone they would want them to notify.

I thought you said that you thought her tweeting was less not stopped — I’m sure you can make up all kinds of connections and feel guilty at this point. I don’t think it’s helpful to go down that road and it doesn’t change anything."

Weird as it sounds, I LOVE that he said, "...it doesn't change anything." I continue to want to accept and live by what is, not what I fantasize or wish might be.

True enough. If she wanted her mother to know, she'd tell the staff, not Twitter.

Hops

lighter:
Oh Hops.... how scary, and sad, and I'd want to jump up and DO DO DO too.

I'd make similar connections.... I'd want want want, and it would drive me crazy for a while.

It's good your T helps you stay level. 

Perspective is a good thing.

::sending healing pink light for you and your dd::

Lighter

Gaining Strength:
Thinking of you Hops. 

Twoapenny:
Hopsie, thinking of you both.  I think you are right to hang back; she knows she can contact you and, as you've already mentioned, that sort of random way to get someone's attention wouldn't be healthy and so best not responded to (if that's what it was - I am always putting all sorts of thoughts and connotations onto other people's actions only to find out their intention was very different, it can be confusing!).  But how hard for you to be in this situation.  Hoping that your D is feeling better soon and hoping that you are okay, too.  Cyber hug coming your way ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Hops)))))))))))))))))))))))))))

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