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Tips for Boosting Self Esteem
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on June 13, 2016, 10:17:44 AM ---Tupp.
This is so powerful.
I am deeply thrilled for you.
That you found her, held her, and accepted her as she was...and allowed her to weep.
I could feel the rigidity with you, and then the burst of relief.
I am so glad you have found this experience and are trusting it.
love
Hops
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Thanks, Hops. I did find it very powerful. I've always struggled a bit with this inner child stuff, not because I don't believe in it or see the validity to it but I've always felt I've struggled to reconnect to any earlier stuff - I have experienced things with me the age I was when the abuse started but that was different because I was older and it wasn't with my mum so it sort of felt like a different set of problems. This was different, though, much younger age and I think there was just something about the lady's voice on the meditation that I found very nurturing and the picture she describes for you to follow felt very safe to me, for some reason. I've just woken up from an impromptu nap and I do just feel less empty inside than usual. It seems to be doing some good things :) How is your new job going now? xx
Hopalong:
--- Quote ---I do just feel less empty inside than usual.
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That is SO significant! Another thing to trust. (Joy.)
Job is a very mixed bag. Some pleasant stuff but a horrid (I have read about it) business model that's so exploitative. (They cancel your shift at the last minute if they think it won't be a "busy day.") Given the wealth of the winery owners, it's hard to stomach. And I feel worse for my coworkers, very young and carrying student debt. No wonder half of them are still in their parents' basements!
I am enjoying most of it (learning about wine, interacting with people) but don't think it's a long-term solution. And that's okay. I'll find a work mix that's right for me. I still have enough "cushion" that I'm not approaching this out of panic, for a change.
Not yet anyway!
Hugs
Ho
ann3:
Hi Tupp,
So glad you found a counsellor!! :D You deserve support, we all do. Great you reached out and found some.
Great to hear the Inner Child work is working for you.
I have found Inner Child work to be extremely insightful, self revealing and healing, although sometimes what is revealed can be very painful, as you noted. Inner Child work is like holding up a mirror to ourselves and really seeing what's going on in the deep, inner recesses of our psyche and how that effects us in our daily living.
Please try to get enough rest, like at least 7 hours per night, it really helps.
Please let us know how the counseling goes. If, by chance, you don't like the Counsellor, it's no biggie because you can find another one. If, on the other hand, you do like the Counsellor, then that would be awesome!!
Keep on keeping on, Tupp!! :D
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on June 13, 2016, 09:49:30 PM ---
--- Quote ---I do just feel less empty inside than usual.
--- End quote ---
That is SO significant! Another thing to trust. (Joy.)
Job is a very mixed bag. Some pleasant stuff but a horrid (I have read about it) business model that's so exploitative. (They cancel your shift at the last minute if they think it won't be a "busy day.") Given the wealth of the winery owners, it's hard to stomach. And I feel worse for my coworkers, very young and carrying student debt. No wonder half of them are still in their parents' basements!
I am enjoying most of it (learning about wine, interacting with people) but don't think it's a long-term solution. And that's okay. I'll find a work mix that's right for me. I still have enough "cushion" that I'm not approaching this out of panic, for a change.
Not yet anyway!
Hugs
Ho
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I hate the way that works now, so many people I know of are working day to day never knowing whether they'll be needed or not so they never know how much money is coming in. It's not such a problem if you're a student and just working for beer money but for people who need a proper income it's terrible. I'm glad it's keeping you ticking over, though, and will keep my fingers crossed that something more suited to you comes along soon xx
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: ann3 on June 14, 2016, 12:07:45 AM ---Hi Tupp,
So glad you found a counsellor!! :D You deserve support, we all do. Great you reached out and found some.
Great to hear the Inner Child work is working for you.
I have found Inner Child work to be extremely insightful, self revealing and healing, although sometimes what is revealed can be very painful, as you noted. Inner Child work is like holding up a mirror to ourselves and really seeing what's going on in the deep, inner recesses of our psyche and how that effects us in our daily living.
Please try to get enough rest, like at least 7 hours per night, it really helps.
Please let us know how the counseling goes. If, by chance, you don't like the Counsellor, it's no biggie because you can find another one. If, on the other hand, you do like the Counsellor, then that would be awesome!!
Keep on keeping on, Tupp!! :D
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Thanks, Ann :) I do find reaching into those dark places scary. I think something that put me off counselling a bit was that I felt I was analysing everything, all the time, I couldn't just accept something as it was, I was constantly looking for some sort of sub text or hidden meaning. I've dropped back on that a bit now, perhaps it was just a phase, I don't know but I find it easier to not have to poke too much into everything. I will keep on with the mediation, though, I have been finding that very useful and I'm amazed at how powerful it can be sometimes, you wouldn't think someone telling a little story with some background music would have such an effect, would you?
I have been trying to reach out to real people as well and do more things with my life that are a bit out of my comfort zone. I've got a doctor's appointment tomorrow - I usually take my son with me but I've asked a friend to come and sit with him at home, we're going to have lunch beforehand so I'm looking forward to that. I've agreed to meet up with a very ex boyfriend (dated him in my teens); I had been going through my usual list of 'what ifs' and freaking out but it's just a couple of hours so I've said yes and we're going to meet in a local pub. And next week they're showing an opera at the local cinema - do they do that in the States? They started doing it here a few years ago, where they screen live shows at the local cinema. I've never been to an Opera so I saw this and thought I'd give it a go. I'm going on my own - eek! I'm just not feeling such a need to put a front on. It feels a bit scary to put myself out there as I really am and give people a chance to like me or not - I suppose in the past it's always been about whether or not people liked the persona and then I guess it's not so bad if they don't because it's not really you? I don't know. Anyway - it's raining again! Another British summer is underway :)
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