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Elder Abuse and ending a friendship
Ales2:
Another deal breaker is friends who actively encourage me to settle for less in the workplace. That's not happening either. I have certain goals, I pursue certain avenues, high paying w/benefits. Settling for less is not an option for me.
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Ales2 on June 20, 2016, 02:13:09 PM ---Another deal breaker is friends who actively encourage me to settle for less in the workplace. That's not happening either. I have certain goals, I pursue certain avenues, high paying w/benefits. Settling for less is not an option for me.
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I can really identify with this, Ales. I have realised recently that I have 'dumbed down' a lot over the last ten years or so. I think this has been partly as a sort of protective thing where I've just stopped myself thinking too much about things and have had to sort of numb myself out to cope with painful experiences, but I also realised that I am surrounded by negative, low achievers who have a variety of drink and drug issues. And I'm not being critical of that, I have been all of those things myself. But I do think in order to change it's best to keep company with people that we aspire to be like and who can encourage our hopes and dreams rather than people who think it's best to settle/not rock the boat/not take a risk and so on. So absolutely don't settle! Reach for the stars! :)
Ales2:
Well, I am learning and being cautious with some things. This morning my NMom (via a phone conversation) wanted to drive 100 miles to visit me at my apartment or meet me at a bank (in my neighborhood) to give me a "check".
Uh no. I told her to mail it, its just easier. She had no real response to that. But, I am aware that in the state of CA, there is a financial elder abuse downloadable PDF form for use by Financial Institutions. If I met her at a bank, and she took out money and gave it to me, probably in very dramatic fashion in front of the teller or bank manager then she returns later and claims that it was extortion or she was under duress and have them report it.
I was sensing that she was being passive aggressive to provoke me and entrap me, but I was cool as a cucumber and was prepared to just let it go. This woman will stop at nothing to criminalize a legitimate hardship and twist a previous financial arrangement into a crime.
I will be so glad when I can move on and separate from her completely.
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