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Twoapenny:

--- Quote from: lighter on June 22, 2016, 05:50:13 PM ---Tupper:

Conversation with attorney this morning went like this....
he floated bottom line deal by opposing counsel, and was surprised he was willing to consider it.

They either take it or leave it, and we continue preparing for trial.

Lighter

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Well I hope they all vanish into the ether quickly, good grief!  One of the things that makes me work so hard on myself now is that I really, really don't want to spend my later years being angry and bitter and making other people's lives a misery.  Imagine the difference in the world if people worked as hard to be kind as they do to damage and destroy?  Sending you a big hug, you have coped with such an amazing amount already and I really hope this stops soon xxx

sKePTiKal:
I like your "FAB", Lighter. And your outfit needs some "shiny", too - polished steel perhaps.

The military term for these repeated assaults is "harrying". You're being forced to constantly react to them, which totally disrupts the focus and time and energy you're putting into rebuilding a family life and teaching the girls that they have survived something awful - but they CAN go on and be happy and living life again. I'd be PISSED OFF and heads would roll.

But doing that legally is probably the most effective. They will attempt this one too many times and the karma wheel will be pointing directly at them, at which point someone will step in (the judge perhaps) and give them a reason to "be careful what you wish for". (That's just a fantasized narrative that would be ultimately satisfying that there IS justice in this world... reality is likely to be something else. No one can say for sure, how things will go.)

All a person can do, is what you've already got well in hand - the homework, the nit-picky point by point rebuttal and defense, and now you've just got trust your lawyer, and yourself, to be able surf the waves as they roll in.

My personal opinion, is that you're probably a qualified paralegal by now (in skillset) and they are desperately clinging at any straws they can imagine, and stooping lower than worms, for the mere satisfaction of causing trouble. You probably need to set aside time to a) not think about it at all and b) devote time to you, home & the girls... and not let this consume your every waking minute. (D#2 and I have a rule that we don't discuss D#1 after 8 pm. No exceptions.)

I've revisiting old crap, too. More on that in my thread.

lighter:
Eh.... I stopped wondering what the world would be like if toxic people used their powers for good, instead of evil,, Tupp.

It was easier once I saw good people step up, and do kind/considerate/decent things for no reason other than they knew it was the right thing to do.

Things balance out.

Now I see people as gifts or lessons.

Amber:
 Lawyer just called.... the opposing counsel just accepted our offer verbally.  In his words "they're ready to fold."

 My response... "I'll believe it when I see signed documents."

I'm casually walking by my trial prep area contemplating the idea of NOT finishing up, and..... it makes me laugh.  Your post was pretty spot on, IMO.  They have stooped low, and they've never missed an opportunity to pretend settle, over and over and over, so we'd be harried with starting stopping starting trial prep, over and over, nad I'm not doing that any more.  It doesn't even cross my mind, bc settling is only ever possible if we're going to trial.   

I'm almost done, and I want it over and put away without having to fear dragging it back out again IF they jump sideways.

ONE JERK from opposing counsel and everything will be push button ready, and I have the biggest baddest attorneys in the yard pointed at them, and he already knows not to try to talk me out of trial, or worse yet, INTO more settlement discussions.

Hmm..... I guess I could go back with ONE offer... the one I wanted to propose in the first place.... I get all my attorney fees and costs paid.  I'm not budging the other direction.... that won't be possible, and I have complete peace with that, come what may.... then I remember my children.... 

Protecting children.  WHO uses the safety of children as leverage??   They do, and at this point we can prove it.

::Sigh::

There's a good deal of peace in knowing what my response will be, no matter what they do.  No more wringing of hands, and gnashing teeth.

Thanks for input on limiting the chaos.... putting time frame on it..... yes.  I really do hope they sign this Agreement, and walk away.

I hope revisiting your stuff is productive, ((Amber.))

Lighter

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