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What gives you your sense of self worth
Twoapenny:
Head is whizzing. Will reply properly later on (have read through but mind is befuddled and struggling to put feelings into words). Hops, never a need for hijacking threads :)
But a quick question for you -
We want to move, as you know. Moving brings it's own set of stresses and problems, as you know. I'm very tired and long for some time to recharge my batteries (as I expect most of us do).
I have been offered a shortish term house sitting 'opportunity'. Very out of the blue and very unexpected. Approximately 3 months, in the absolute middle of nowhere, looking after someone's land and their animals whilst they are elsewhere. No pay, but also no rent. So, pros and cons:
Pros: We could leave here more quickly and easily, and be able to put the deposit we get back from this place into a savings account and keep saving, meaning we'd have more for our new home a bit further down the line.
It's pretty much 'off the grid', meaning that we'd be harder to track down should my mother do her usual bit.
It's very rural in a beautiful part of the country so the nature around us would be stunning.
It is the kind of adventure I long for (even if it turns out to be a disaster).
If it is a complete disaster it is only for twelve weeks and we could pull out sooner if we really wanted to.
It's outdoorsey, working with animals which would be good for me to have on my 'list of skills', particularly as I am very keen to join communes at a later date and work abroad, possibly through the WWOOFing scheme.
I think it would be great for my son.
It's much closer to our new 'place we want to live' which would make looking for somewhere easier.
It wouldn't delay my son's college application as I could just get all the paperwork in place and send if off as soon as we get a move in date to the permanent area (which would be end of Jan so still well in time for the deadline).
The cat would love it.
Cons: It is in the middle of nowhere - literally no neighbours, I don't know about phone/internet and would have to check.
It's a caravan (trailer, I think you call them) so will be cold even with heating on and it is going to be winter.
It will probably rain for the whole time we are there so we will never dry out!
Four miles from the nearest town - not bad but will mean we can't just pop out for a pint of milk if we need to.
The animals might escape/get ill/peck me to death or something.
The owners could just change their minds (just as we could) which would mean having to find somewhere else to live quickly (although we'd have the deposit money saved anyway so that probably wouldn't be a big problem).
I'd have to put a lot of my furniture into storage which will be a cost (although not too high a one as I don't have an awful lot of gear).
We wouldn't have a postal address so would have to sort out some sort of mail forwarding/PO Box system.
Complete nightmare? Or worth looking into? I'm keen to find out more but am aware that my head's all over the place at the moment and keeps telling me to to RUN AWAY so I'm not sure if 3 months in the middle of nowhere would be a blessing or a curse at the moment.
Hopalong:
Wow, Tupp.
Unlike you, I am a LOL (Lazy Old Lady) and lack the grit to take on isolation, unknown animals, no internet, and so forth. Like you, I am a VSF (very serious fantasist) so I can see how you look for the rosy side. AND, if it really did mean significant money for your future could be put by, I'd probably really want to consider it.
But. You've already identified quite a few downsides. Living in a trailer during rainy winter with your son, and four miles from anything? Not sure it'll be the bucolic dream, honestly. And if it IS nightmarish for those or yet-identified factors that appeared once there...would you have a Plan B? I think that's probably pretty decisive. If you leave your current home with belongings in storage, what happens next if you really HAVE to get out of there?
Keep thinking, adding to your Pros and Cons list...and I know others here will have good observations.
Wow. Oh, also, breaaaaathe...
Hugs
Hops
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on August 31, 2016, 03:41:34 PM ---Wow, Tupp.
Unlike you, I am a LOL (Lazy Old Lady) and lack the grit to take on isolation, unknown animals, no internet, and so forth. Like you, I am a VSF (very serious fantasist) so I can see how you look for the rosy side. AND, if it really did mean significant money for your future could be put by, I'd probably really want to consider it.
But. You've already identified quite a few downsides. Living in a trailer during rainy winter with your son, and four miles from anything? Not sure it'll be the bucolic dream, honestly. And if it IS nightmarish for those or yet-identified factors that appeared once there...would you have a Plan B? I think that's probably pretty decisive. If you leave your current home with belongings in storage, what happens next if you really HAVE to get out of there?
Keep thinking, make your Pros and Cons list...and I know others here will have good observations.
Wow. Oh, also, breaaaaathe...
Hugs
Hops
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Lol, am breathing in fits and starts :) Have emailed a list of questions. On one hand I feel it could be a break between my old life and my new one. Character building stuff. On the other could make me enter my new life depressed, lol. Would be good financially. Plan B is easy enough as we'd have the money to move so could just go and rent a flat. Although saying that a big chunk of metal has just fallen off my van so I'd probably be better to wait and see how much that is going to cost. We're 3 miles from anything other than a corner shop where we are now so that bit doesn't bother me so much. No internet might do a bit more; did struggle without it recently. Won't be completely isolated as the lady that owns it lets a home ed group meet there twice a week so we'd have visitors (which is more than we do now, lol!). Will wait and see what the answers to the questions are. I wonder how difficult it is to teach yourself to ride a horse? ;) x
Hopalong:
Oh, Lord.
Tupp faceplants in horse poo....
Okay, breathe (to self).
Hmmm. I like the thought of visitors! And adore horses though I quit riding. Do you have ANY experience with farm animals? Will the owners leave you nice and clear daily/each task instructions? I could imagine how lovely that could be for your son, to gain that experience. SO good for kids with issues to take responsibility for animal chores. They (animals) have wisdom and just don't judge... Now it's sounding more appealing!
Money, good. Plan B, good. Four miles not intimidating, good.
Now, how the Board would cope with no Tupp-talk for 3 months...BAAAAAAD. Have laptop? Village have a wifi coffee shop?
Vicarious thrills,
Hops
lighter:
Hi Tupp:
I like to make lists of pris and cons.
Also....maybe a day on the farm helping to care for animals before you go any further? Hands on experience will give you tons of information.
Worst case scenario.....what doesn't kill you and all that.
Best case.....you and your son experience the farm as tonic for the soul.
I sure would like to see how your day reacts to the farm and animals up front. How do you feel when you're there?
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