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lighter:
DD16 assures me she's been working on her issues instensely for months, and more recently, the issues I'm most concerned about.
Just saying that out loud is a relief. I didn't know how to get us both through it, and it turns out she's already made it through. Now I just have to find closure for myself.
A dear friend is visiting soon. I've decided to have the Amazon bonfire, complete with ritual burning of items FINALLY, and lists of things I need to let go of. Both girls will be invited, and attend if they choose.
This feels so right..... like a deep cleansing breeze is on the way: )
Setting up a daily check in, between me and both girls, will be something I;d like to get in place. More for me, perhaps, than them. They've been doing that since they learned it in 2nd and 4th grades at their enlightened school.
I'm the one who'll likely have the hardest time with it. Thanks for the reminder to just keep talking to each other, Amber. I think that's going to be one of the most important pieces.
Lighter
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on May 18, 2017, 01:39:58 PM ---DD16 assures me she's been working on her issues instensely for months, and more recently, the issues I'm most concerned about.
Just saying that out loud is a relief. I didn't know how to get us both through it, and it turns out she's already made it through. Now I just have to find closure for myself.
A dear friend is visiting soon. I've decided to have the Amazon bonfire, complete with ritual burning of items FINALLY, and lists of things I need to let go of. Both girls will be invited, and attend if they choose.
This feels so right..... like a deep cleansing breeze is on the way: )
Setting up a daily check in, between me and both girls, will be something I;d like to get in place. More for me, perhaps, than them. They've been doing that since they learned it in 2nd and 4th grades at their enlightened school.
I'm the one who'll likely have the hardest time with it. Thanks for the reminder to just keep talking to each other, Amber. I think that's going to be one of the most important pieces.
Lighter
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The bonfire sounds like an amazing idea, Lighter, and I'm so pleased your D has just got on and sorted things out in her mind. It sounds like all the things you've been doing really helped. Steps forward, by the sound of things, it's good to be able to leave the past behind :)
lighter:
Hi Tupp:
I've been researching the death arrow fire ceremony. The biggest thing that comes up for me is the concept of "releasing" people, and things....... especially harmful toxic people who don't deserve forgiveness..... Who have done unforgivable things.
It helps tidy up what I used to think of as forgiveness......
which is tricky, and sometimes impossible to make sense of.
Finding a way to make peace with the past, and leave toxic people behind..... if possible.... seems like fresh air to me.
Release..... to shed..... to leave behind.... scrape off.....dislodge..... cut out..... excise...... remove, and make space for something new....
::nodding::
I like it.
Lighter
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on May 20, 2017, 02:37:00 PM ---Hi Tupp:
I've been researching the death arrow fire ceremony. The biggest thing that comes up for me is the concept of "releasing" people, and things....... especially harmful toxic people who don't deserve forgiveness..... Who have done unforgivable things.
It helps tidy up what I used to think of as forgiveness......
which is tricky, and sometimes impossible to make sense of.
Finding a way to make peace with the past, and leave toxic people behind..... if possible.... seems like fresh air to me.
Release..... to shed..... to leave behind.... scrape off.....dislodge..... cut out..... excise...... remove, and make space for something new....
::nodding::
I like it.
Lighter
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Releasing is something I find difficult, particularly when the other person hasn't acknowledged or accepted what they have done. I do feel a little like I'm shedding stuff at the moment, people and past events I suppose. I feel a bit like the past is holding me back and I want it gone so I can leap into the future. Ceremonies can help, just because it's a sort of formal declaration I suppose, even if it's just to yourself, but you're showing that you mean business, you want this done and things need to change. That can only be a good thing from my point of view :)
lighter:
It feeeeels like a good thing, Tupp: )
Light
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