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Hopalong:
Thank you, Kathy! So kind of you to feel happy for me.
I do enjoy her. I think because I really am drawn to deep and radical human experience, non-conventional...and boy she sure is going through that. She senses that I'm a non-judgemental ally as far as her situation goes, so likes to drop little comments about what she's experiencing. Like hormones! I joke with her a bit about it too so she seems to appreciate being at ease around me.
One moment she's just a 60-year-old entrepreneur talking seriously about a business issue and the next she's a vulnerable 14-y/o for a flash. She's managing it all as best she can but what a change she's zooming through. I think it takes enormous courage.
We're a funny couple of old business bats, that's for sure. I like her grown daughter who works there too.
:)
Hops
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on October 02, 2016, 02:27:46 PM ---Hi Tupp,
Thanks for the good wishes...no, the wine-serving adventure was over after 3 weekends. I had only 2 days/wknd and they cancelled half of them as I was heading out the door to work. They hadn't explained it was a new retail model where if the business anticipates a slow day (again, last minute) they'll just cancel a worker's scheduled shift to trim costs. I arranged my calendar to put work first and it didn't sit well that they would increase low-paid workers' instability that way. Very exploitative. Secondly, my 22-y/o glamorous manager treated me like an irrelevant bad smell, refused to train me thoroughly and literally turned her back and gossiped away with a yet-younger worker when there were no customers. She clearly didn't like having an older person around.One day when I realized I felt like crying (Mean Girl memories) I decided it wasn't worth it. I've never regretted the decision for a moment.
Hi Lighter,
Yes, it'll be tricky at times because of her issues. But that's not something I can really control or fix, I don't think. So I'm just staying focused on what's positive and what does work, and hoping for the best. I'm well engaged and she appears to be sincere about moving my position to FT as soon as her financing for the expansion is lined up. If that does not happen, then I'll look elsewhere...but for now, I'm accepting her at face value. In the present, it's good.
Thanks, guys -- I'll keep posting job stories on this thread as they come up!
hugs
Hops
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Ah those zero hours contracts are causing misery over here as well, you're right, it's highly exploitative. I don't blame you for getting out of that situation, more toxicity is not what anyone needs in their life! This new one sounds great, keep us posted :)
Hopalong:
I knew it!
Was having a chuckle with boss' very nice daughter and we were commiserating over how challenging it is to brainstorm with boss, as she's all over the map. I said carefully, hmmm, reminds me a little of ADD, and her D goes--Oh yes, she's really got it, has to take her Rx because without it she can't focus at all...
Oh boy. Takes one to know one...
:lol:
Hops
Hopalong:
Hi y'all--
Several have asked how the job's going, sorry it's taken a while.
It's all of these things: fun, frustrating, bizarre, engaging, and just...strange.
But I'm liking it overall.
I'm mostly stay embedded in the present because it's honestly hard to visualize how my boss, with the panoply of issues she's dealing with (some serious executive function challenges, an old brain injury, transitioning, and I'm not sure what else) -- can really, actually, see this through to success. She is blithely assuming that I and her daughter can take it all over and make it work. She's NOT engaged enough, but is still trying, and in her own odd way, tenacious.
We had a talk the other day about how she needs me to slow down and give her time to process stuff. She's right. I'm keeping a grip on my impatience, but sometimes barely. She doesn't come in until 3:30 or 4:00 (by which time I'm tiring) and I literally have to read emails to her (that I already sent her and she never read) to be sure she's following the ins and outs of my detailed convos with suppliers. That drives me nuts. It's just not CEO behavior so I'm sometimes gob-smacked at what feels delusional. (Then again, she's kept her business alive since the 80s.)
I NEED her input and it's a little hair-pulling to get her focused. We're actually undertaking a huge task with multiple parts, and I feel overwhelmed with trying to keep track of it all with so little consistency from her. She starts, stops, changes her mind, and is just....ditsy. But I'm still being paid, so there's that.
So ironic.
That said, though, I still genuinely like her, and compared to the nightmare of my previous job, this is way way WAY better. I don't mind going, and I do feel valued. Just as though I'm in the twilight zone sometimes. I believe she's going to keep her word about making it FT after Thanksgiving, and if that does happen, I'll be relieved.
If I keep my expectations low and just do what I can, that'll be okay. It's just a fairly crazy situation.
Hugs
Hops
lighter:
Wowsers, Hops.
I can't believe boss works so little and hasn't made you full time.
How can she work so little and not have you there FT?
::crossing fingers::
Lighter
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