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Facebook post by Micaela (my daughter) on the day after the election
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Dr. Richard Grossman on November 13, 2016, 06:00:43 PM ---Hi Bones,
--- Quote from: BonesMS on November 12, 2016, 07:11:20 AM ---Richard, your daughter is AMAZING!!!!
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Thanks! As you can tell, Micaela is the furthest thing/person from "voiceless." My 91-year-old father printed out a copy of the Facebook posts above to keep. Sadly for her, in many ways she is more like me than any other person in the universe ;-)
--- Quote from: BonesMS on November 12, 2016, 07:11:20 AM ---I've had some people on Facebook give me a hard time because I took a stand. One attempted to shut me down because my opinion gave her "stress". Other responses were worse. I responded as follows:
I am posting this notice to make my position CRYSTAL CLEAR! If my taking a stand against a racist makes you uncomfortable, then you are free to leave. I am not going to relinquish my voice in order to make you comfortable. I REFUSE to respect an A$$WIPE who is a bigot, misogynist, raping PIG! My taking a stand is making you uncomfortable in your White Privilege? Well guess what? Ever since this A$$CLOWN was elected, I've had family members harassed because they are not white. I've been told to "delete myself" because I objected to Islamophobia. White Privilege has NO business telling me and anyone who is a member of a marginalized group to shut up and take it/suck it up because my speaking out is giving your White Privilege "stress". White Privilege does NOT HAVE A CLUE what "stress" REALLY is when you're threatened with lynching because of the color of your skin, or being threatened with rape because you're a woman, or being threatened with death because you're a member of the gay community, (I'm so ANGRY right now I can't remember the acronym in the correct order!) The KKK are dancing in the street and YOU expect ME to STAY SILENT?!?!?! I DON'T F**KING THINK SO!!!!!! I have more to say and I need to stop and breathe for a while!
Just my two cents.
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Good for you for not being silent! Keep it up!
Richard
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Thanks, Richard!
I posted more later when another idiot started attacking a family member of mine because my family member was defending me and my First Amendment rights. The idiot went so far as to verbally attack my family member based on her disability and THAT earned the idiot a free launch in my trebuchet bucket! The idiot didn't stop there! Idiot kept insisting that my general comments about White Privilege were specifically targeting HER! (I have NO idea WHERE she got THAT idea as it was a GENERAL statement regarding White Privilege!) Then idiot ended her rant at me by calling me a Narcissistic Bigot! I didn't attempt to JADE, I just simply blocked the idiot so she can't continue to harass.
mudpuppy:
Hmm, not feeling too welcome here anymore.
mud
Hopalong:
Hi (((((((Mud)))))))))--
To my mind, you're more welcome than ever.
There's nothing more vital we all can do these day than love across boundaries, even when in some areas we'll disagree.
Sending you love, and hoping you've had a happy Tgiving.
I'm very glad you're here. And appreciate you in many ways.
STAY!
love to you,
Hops
mudpuppy:
Not feeling a lot of boundary crossing love above your comment, Hops.
mud
Hopalong:
Hi Mud,
Politics, wherever one lands and however one reasons it...is deeply personal, I think. And I have realized I don't ever need to debate it again. I can do that voluntarily at times when it's welcome, but mainly I just need to live in a right way, as best I can.
The only way I see through the alienation we feel (generic "we") from one another is to focus on something a wise therapist told me once (and that I read in other places since).
It's a choice to take offense, maintain a grudge, and especially to judge.
(I like all those. They keep me comfy in my echo chamber. And sometimes they serve a true purpose...to help me not feel alone if I am despairing. But they're not useful or humane as places to live in.)
If it is a choice to take offense, which I have come to believe is mostly true...for me, in order to get unstuck again, I have figured out that compassion is the most powerful thing there is. I don't have to, and there's a lot in the world that wants me not to, but I can choose it. I know it has many names but that's the word that works for me.
Once I choose compassion, for others and for myself, there is no wall between me and anyone. I have to RE-choose it, over and over, when things/people/events knock me out of it. And it's still okay to protect myself (compassion from a distance is sometimes necessary...with Ns, for example.) But it always feels like True North, so I wobble back. Then I feel I have got the direction right. I can't persuade or force anybody else to think about it; it just is what it is.
When I'm angry or hurt or excluded or miffed or frustrated with others, there's still this in my mind: ...it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. I don't do a very good job of it, being at least 9/10 clay, but it's still the lodestar.
That's really the main thing I retained from my childhood faith. That was what I understood. That's what I took in, very profoundly, in my heart. All my thinking, positions, or experiences since then...have never contradicted the truth of that.
Love to you,
Hops
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