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How Do You Manage Your Stress?
Hopalong:
Four years ago when I first moved to this sweet dead-end block of wee houses along the ridge (old dairy farm before it was developed in the 50s), I was coming home one twilight and there were TEN deer shambling along in a herd right down the middle of my street. They were juveniles, and not delinquents...just moving along at snack time, eyeing the shrubbery on offer.
One morning after heavy rain I drew open the curtains on the back wing that sticks into the yard and saw five deer sleeping along my fence...I think they were looking for drier ground. And once I startled some in the yard and in their scramble to jump back out, a couple lost their footing on the gravel driveway and kind of lurched into the side of the house. They aren't in my yard any more since one stretch of deer fencing got added (after Pooch Poo Roll #2 defeated my sentiments) but I do enjoy seeing them all the time in the neighborhood.
Frisky. I remember stopping to look at a small group of them on a walk. After a bit, one who had his eye on me began stamping his front feet. I think that was to send a vibration warning to his pals, not to signal aggression to me. But just in case that behavior could mean either thing, Pooch and I picked up the pace and stopped staring!
(I still feel a little guily about booting them from my yard.)
:)
Hops
PS-- My community's pretty upset about a current campaign by a few county folks too lazy to put away their birdfeeders and get locking trash bins. They've petitioned the authorities to change hunting regs so they can eliminate 1/4 of the existing black bear population, which is no longer threatened but has not yet rebounded to sustainable levels. It's about humans refusing to respect common sense and adapt to the bears' environment as the humans move in with their vacay mountain homes. Some are even proposing they be allowed to shoot hibernating bears in their dens. Pretty big pushback happening, so I hope the effort fails. For God's sake. It's ugly.
Twoapenny:
I hope their attempts fail as well, we should respect their living spaces that we invade with our developments, not the other way around! We see similar things here, not with animals so much but with the countryside in general. People move out of the cities because they want to live in the country (we're about an hour from London so it's prime for commuters) but then they cut down the trees in their gardens, concrete their front gardens so that they can park their cars on them and complain that there's no Starbucks! Crazy behaviour, I hope the bear killers don't get their way. How much effort is it to lock your bin and bring in your bird feeder?!
lighter:
Oh Hops, I hope the bears are safe too. It's sad when we crowd them out.... like it's our home, and not theirs.
Yes, mating season. I'm not sure when it is, but I'm sure I'd like to avoid a frontal hoof pummeling if possible. Sure, we;d be fine, but...... really?
That's a story I'd rather not have to share.
::nodding::
The ticks..... so... creepy. I've picked a sore spot on the top of my itchy head, and half convinced myself it's SOMETHING. I don't have a very high tolerance for bugs, and allergies.
Tupp..... what would it look like if you just did for yourself for a month, or two? Literally, what do you see for yourself?
Lighter
Twoapenny:
Anything itchy makes me itch, Lighter, a tick would freak me out! I thought the cat had one when she was a lot younger and I rushed off to the vet because I couldn't cope with trying to get it out on my own and it turns out she has a funny nipple (or whatever they call them on cats!). So it was left well alone (I imagine vets have a sort of get together where they swop stories on the daft things people bring their pets in with :) ).
I have been thinking over the weekend about what I would like to do. I think where I'm struggling is that I don't have any problems to deal with at the moment (in terms of pressing, can't ignore them problems) and I'm so used to living my life dealing with 'stuff' that I'm floundering a bit with making choices and decisions instead of having them made for me.
One thing I would love to get done in the next month is to get my van ship shape so that we can go away in it and be nice and comfy. And maybe I should just aim for one thing instead of my usual scattergun approach of trying to do a dozen things at once? I think I might actually need a break from people for a while. I'm getting frustrated with other people's 'stuff' and thinking I might be better with my own company for a while.
lighter:
That's one sad thing about living under siege all the time.... it becomes the normal, IME.
If we're used to operating on adrenaline, in crisis mode...... adjusting to life under less pressure isn't easy, IMO.
TBH I think PDs often manufacture crisis and drama when it's not in their life... bc it feels normal to them, and they can't figure out how to get along without.
I sure hope we can.
I like peace and serenity.
Just sit with the difficult feelings, ((Tupp.))
Name them, whatever comes up, until you have some clarity...... it will come.
Lighter
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