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"'The Bachelorette' and relationship therapy for one"--CBS News interview

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Dr. Richard Grossman:
Hi Hops, Lighter, Garbanzo, and Skeptical,

Thanks for the read!  I tried to stuff many topics that are important to me into a brief interview time, so I'm afraid the result was a bit choppy.  Also, I feel/work so differently than my therapist colleagues, I’m not sure Mary (the author) knew what she was “getting into.”  But I certainly appreciated her call and the national exposure.  Certainly, more to follow on all these topics when I finally get back to writing my book (now that my father is settled in his assisted living facility.)

Thanks again!  I so appreciate your never-ending support!

Richard

sunblue:
Congrats Dr. G!  So great that you were able to touch on these topics in the interview.  I especially loved that you acknowledged that parental relationships can, in fact, have an impact on your ability to sustain healthy adult relationships.  Too often, we're told not to point the finger and to own all of the responsibility for unhealthy patterns or relationships.  Also loved your take on what qualities to look for in a partner for these individuals: "Someone who has the capacity to hear someone else's experience from their point of view and not just translating it into their own experience." 

Ales2:
Hi Dr. G,

Very interesting article Dr. G! I'm glad you were able to part of it.  You sound like a much more solution oriented therapist than I one I saw.  I still hoped to resolve the relationship issue and have my own family, but never got the help I needed and never met anyone.  Kudos to you for sharing your expertise.

Bettyanne:
"People who are defensive and are able to block and stop anything that is the slightest bit painful to them, that's not a good characteristic for a spouse or a mate. If your partner is not vulnerable, it will feel like you aren't being heard or seen." Dr. Grossman.

I find that is what I had as a child....a mother who would turn you off from anything even the smallest of things. She would say this will not be discussed. or she would leave the house. 
It was so frustrating.  When I asked her a child please tell me about the bird and the bees?  She said to me no one told me and I am not going to tell you.

It plains leaves you empty....no one to ever discuss anything with other than what I am being told to do by her.  She wanted me as a young child to grown up and take care of myself so she didn't have to be bothered.

The article posted makes so much sense in order to have a good relationship with friends, family or mate....needs to start at home having a parent who loves you enough to want you to have boundaries and a good life. 

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