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lighter:
(Tupp)). I always feel better when remembering to use you guses filters.
Remembering to channel curiosity helps a ton lot.
:: Nodding fiercely::..
And acceptance.....
Yup yup yup.
Lighter
Hopalong:
I ditto what Tupp said about perfection, Lighter.
If your goal is to ready the place to sell, maybe it can have compromises that you could live with.
I would bet a month's wages that whatever you've come up with is going to be charming, beautiful, comfortable and extremely appealing to the right buyer.
If I understood that right.
I might've gotten confused about the purpose, but I think of your work right now as repairs and then staging?
Peace with the people, Light. It'll help.
You'll make it in one piece. Them too.
love
Hops
sKePTiKal:
Lighter, one thing I've learned is that a "perfect" project can be put down on paper, scheduled, and envisioned in my head... and when we get to the actual "doing"... things just come up.
Things that mean a compromise to the plan.
Things that make what sounded simple, difficult - and take twice as long as expected.
Things that are wonderously BETTER than I could envision.
Things that are unexpectedly emotional; or delight me so much my feet don't touch the ground.
That is the nature of ADVENTURE, versus undertaking a "project". Allow space in any plan for all kinds of unexpected things, always. These can't be foreseen ahead of time; have to be "surfed".
Once the adventure actually begins - no one is in "control", although ironically you'll be expected to pronounce tiny, important, and huge decisions along the way. Even though it tends to be foreign to our ways of interacting with people... the contractors ARE working for you and expect you to tell them what to do. They want to make sure you're happy, with the choices they see in front of them... and so they make us responsible for picking.
After going through that (again) last summer, one learns that "being in control" isn't all it's cracked up to be. LOL. But I have to say - with another inch of snow on the ground this morning - and almost constant wind all winter long - that my vision for the living room, the work done on the house/functional changes, were all good choices. So far, everything I've completed has helped keep it warmer in here... looks cozy... and works for me.
But remember that I lived with the whole top 8 -10 ft of my west wall open to the sky for a week, while they removed the old windows and sided, inside & out, & insulated. And I still have the ugly old polyurethaned slate floors... but by some miracle, the rugs I moved with a) fit the space OK, and subtly blend in and camoflauge the slate some. Those shades of gray one sees nowaday in the home furnishing/design magazines is the perfect "transition" between the earth colors in the floor and the wood walls... providing a "smoothing out" effect of the previous contrast; a unifying and quieting stillness.
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on April 01, 2018, 12:14:39 PM ---(Tupp)). I always feel better when remembering to use you guses filters.
Remembering to channel curiosity helps a ton lot.
:: Nodding fiercely::..
And acceptance.....
Yup yup yup.
Lighter
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(((((((((((((Lighter)))))))))))))))
Something I'm finding I can do more now - whether to myself or others - is notice what's going on and not feel I need to be the one to sort it or fix it. It's a tricky one; some people are more inclined to fix than others and there are times when other people's inability to speak up or act drives me nuts. But yes, I am finding that this technique that you mention of noticing, observing and accepting "Oh! Mr W is getting very angry over very little. There must be something else going on with him. Oh, look at that flower, how pretty". Wouldn't it be great to be able to do that every time :) Sending you observing rays, insulation from drama and getting the work done thoughts in abundance :) xx xx
lighter:
Lordy, I was a little shocky when I wrote that post, guys. I'm calmer, but worried my freight and container won't go tomorrow, bc of some missing invoices..... I think Amazon puts them inside the boxes? I feel my heart will actually explode if it doesn't go this week. Hard to breathe thinking about it.
About perfection.....
I'm just hoping for movement forward.
Anything forward at this point will do.
Anything.
And yes, Tupp....being curious is a shift in perspective that helps a lot. It's helped me make it through this day.
Nite, guys.
Light
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