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Twoapenny:
He sounds like he needs serious psychiatric help, Lighter, I'm horrified for you and yes, this mortgage person needs to make sure she never refers this man to anyone again, my days, I can hardly take in what I'm reading.  He sounds absolutely horrifying.  I'm glad to read there are other people around for some of the time, jeeze, I can't believe this has happened after everything else you've been through, I'm so sorry xx xx xx

lighter:
Tupp:
I'm not sure if he's crazy, or crazy like a fox in that he can control himself around certain people, and much of his crazy could be for manipulation and effect.

This morning he's texting me with a level head, asking for $10 more an hour, which frankly, if you aren't calculating the emotional cost to those around him.... he's worth.

Paying him wouldn't be a problem if he'd get paid.id and go away without endless rounds of insane demands, name calling...more criticism, and threats.....runs around telling everyone I'm the one doing everything he's done.  I'm the liar.  I'm untrustworthy.

::Shaking head::. :shock:

Actually.....
So predictable.

Anyway, he must have kept somebody up all night spiraling through his normal cycles, then ended up talked out of his tree at 4:30am when he sent a rational text.

Last night he was threatening to have "everyone" who worked on the house write and send a letter to the "Bohemian" government.

I'm sure they weren't keen on it as they were treated with kindness, and paid cash on time with many texts to back the facts up, plus the letter he wants to write will get them in trouble.

OK, so he really wants contact with me.  I sent him pic of his handwritten hours, as requested, and told texted him to send his calculations to the trustee.

He received a response for sane conduct.  I never respond to his spinning.

I refuse to hope he'll remain sane, get paid....oh...now I see.  He just wanted his recorded hours for his letter to the Bohemian.   Silly wabbit....
Tricks are for kids.

They extended hope, you want to believe it, then they shove that hope right down your unprotected throat. 

It's an amazing tactic.


Lighter
 

sKePTiKal:
I think perhaps I would've sent the handwritten hours to the trustee - and let them pursue payment with him. Absolutely no contact with him for you. You need the intermediary, in this case, as a witness to events -- and to keep yourself unpolluted with his crap.

Yes, rationality can be feigned... but it's ulterior motive is as bait to hook you into the back & forth again. Probably even gives him hope that you've "cooled off"... and are coming around to his way of wanting things - in his fantasy-land version of events. I've played that game, far too long.

Hopalong:
Yes yes yes, to no no NO contact.

He will manipulate beyond belief as long as there is a shred of communication.

Negative attention is still attention. That's his craving.

Worryworry,

Hops

lighter:
Hops, I was thinking about how this happened to me.  Again.  I made an ivert bargain with men, not one man.....they got an hourly fee to get house in shape, then went for free with understanding they'd do little jobs here and there each trip.

That deal already exists in their circle.... it's a proven winner.

So, bartering was a good idea, at least with 2 if the guys.  The unstable one just couldn't remain level, which is a shame.  We both stood to gain things and improve our lives.

I can't have this place in shape without skilled people spending time here. 

Contractor started to believe he was so important....he could do anything and we'd put up with it.  He was wrong, and I regret letting him get away with the first transgression.  Even though we had plenty of talks about what I was done doing, or allowing.  He has some default self destructive button he has to push.

As I think about it....he may realize he pushed it....feel driven to push it.  It seems compulsive, rather than pathological.

And, yes.... I have to go zero contact with him.  I must.

Lighter

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