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Bettyanne:
Hi Friends....Sorry I have not been on here......my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer that has spread to him stomach, bladder and pelvic bones.  So we were able to find an Oncologist who is wonderful man Dr. Ben Chue.  He is treating Bill and is the kindest doctor I have ever met.  You can call him day or night and actually speak with him.  Bill has two more weeks of chemo to go and then starts a hormone therapy for 3 to 12 months.  He has given us a lot of hope. 
If anyone would says a few prayers we would be most appreciative of that....I know we are not alone and hope all here are doing well as possible.  Life sure changes when something likes this happens.
I will just add here when I was 20 and my dad was dying of melanoma cancer and my NM dumped his capsules for pain and filled them with sugar because she didn't want him to be addicted to pain medicine and yet he would be dying with in a few short months.....what a lesson for me to have kindness and do what ever makes my husband feel better. Thank you Mom for that life lesson.....you sure taught me well :x
Love....Bettyanne

Hopalong:
I am so very sorry, Bettyanne.

This is an ordeal for him and for you too.

I am just terribly sorry.

Hope you will be able to take care of yourself well despite all this sorrow.

Gently,
Hops

Twoapenny:
Bettyanne, you will both be in my thoughts.  I'm glad you have a good doctor - having someone caring and compassionate on board helps a lot, I think.  I'm staggered that your mum dumped your dad's meds!  Completely shocked.  You are right to do whatever makes your hubby (and you!) feel better.  Just acknowledging someone is unwell helps a lot, in my experience, and I think people accepting you are managing your situation however is right for you is useful.  We all do things in different ways and coping with sudden and unexpected news is no different.  Please post when you get the chance to so we know how you are all doing xx

sKePTiKal:
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this! But it does sound like hubby is getting the best care possible. People DO beat cancer, so I'll hope he's one of that number of survivors.

Yes, your lives have changed rapidly and radically. BTDT. But good on you for stepping up to the challenge! It's pretty exhausting to care for someone - the emotional rollercoaster is only the half of it. But it sounds like he's still mobile, and with it mentally. How is he doing tolerating the chemo?

It's real important to take care of you, Bettyanne. Getting some "normal life" breaks is just as essential as eating/sleeping well. It could be that soon this will all be past you and he'll join the ranks of survivors. If, on the other hand, you're in for a long haul, well... don't be afraid to ask for help! He's depending on you - so that's why you must take care of yourself.

There is simply way too much cancer going around.

lighter:
I'm sorry to read that, Bettyanne.  I'll be praying for you and your husband.

Lighter

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