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Hopalong:
Glad the restraining order is in hand, Lighter,
and I hope the crazy contractor is out of your town
for good.

Hops

lighter:
I'm ending this thread on a good note.  My father's ashes went into the ground Saturday, and we had a touching service we all felt was right... at least the sibs felt it was good and right.

It began storming as we finished, and the moss and hosta we planted enjoyed a good drink. 

There were many storms over the weekend, but they were all lightening and thunder... nothing between people.  We enjoyed Aunts and Uncles, and cousins.... such nice people.  SO many lovely people. My girls got to be around nice men, and they saw flaws, and strengths alike.  Honestly, it was an amazing experience, and so that ends this threat.

Lighter

lighter:
OK.  I wanted to just stop thinking about the contractor.  I DID try.  Very hard.

And then I received registered mail claiming the contractor received the wrong court date, had no chance to defend himself at the victorious hearing (that cost me an entire nerve wracking day) and he'll have a chance to explain to the Judge WHY he deserves to have that Order set aside.

The idea he'll testify I DID ALL THE THINGS HE DID is throwing me for an entire loop.  I'm glad it's a very short loop, but... it's a definite loop.  I don't want to SEE him.  I don't want to look into his eyes, and I don't want to be questioned by him. 

Honestly, I don't want to see him come unglued in the courtroom, which is likely, IME. 

Lighter

Twoapenny:

--- Quote from: lighter on May 30, 2018, 08:19:18 PM ---OK.  I wanted to just stop thinking about the contractor.  I DID try.  Very hard.

And then I received registered mail claiming the contractor received the wrong court date, had no chance to defend himself at the victorious hearing (that cost me an entire nerve wracking day) and he'll have a chance to explain to the Judge WHY he deserves to have that Order set aside.

The idea he'll testify I DID ALL THE THINGS HE DID is throwing me for an entire loop.  I'm glad it's a very short loop, but... it's a definite loop.  I don't want to SEE him.  I don't want to look into his eyes, and I don't want to be questioned by him. 

Honestly, I don't want to see him come unglued in the courtroom, which is likely, IME. 

Lighter

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(((((((((((((((((((Lighter)))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Is this a legal doc, from his solicitor, or a letter from him?  I can't see a judge entertaining this in the UK, but I don't know if the system is similar in the States.  The Judge wouldn't have served the order if he'd had any doubt that this was just a row between two people.  You had evidence, clear evidence.  Have you taken legal advice on this?  And if not, can you? xx xx xx

sKePTiKal:
If he comes unglued in front of the judge - methinks the judge will properly assess him.

If he plays victim, sobs about how much he loves you and that this is all a big misunderstanding - methinks the judge will ask him about the knife thing.

If he brings a lawyer to have the order set aside - on the basis of a contract dispute - then he/she (the judge) will be asking about all the personal crap.

Yes, it's normal to jump to the conclusion that he'll be able to fool the judge. All of us here, struggle with that reflex fear. Sadly the proliferation of just his kind of "crazy" has taught a lot of the judges some hard, hard lessons about how the contractor's type works. But that's good in the long run, because they aren't so easily suckered into believing them.

I'm so sorry he couldn't just let it go Lighter. Mantra: just leave me alone, remember. The order only applies to you and him; and in no way restricts his ability to go on about his life or business. HE HAS NO RIGHT TO CONTACT YOU in any way shape or form; the Trustee will handle the business dealings. And IMO, his motion only proves your need for the court order.

Best of luck, kiddo. This kind of thing - and Holly's current situation - have me not checking anymore to see if the Viking has replied to me yet. I have bigger fish to fry than to get bogged down with something that comes out of the blue like this. Just not worth taking that chance right now.

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